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10 Minutes with: Angie Wingerden

Meet Angie, mom to Eila and twin brothers Jack and Willem. Inspired to contribute her skills toward creating a better life for Eila who was born with a rare genetic condition called FOXG1, Angie volunteers as the CFO and Head of Operations for the FOXG1 Research Foundation.

Below, Angie tells us more about her work with the Foundation, shares a few stories of life with Elia and talks about what it’s like - both the challenges and the rewards - to be a mom to a child with special needs.

 
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
 

MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.
ANGIE WINGERDEN:
Hi, I am Angie, mom to Eila who is 15-years -old and has FOXG1 syndrome.  We live just outside Ottawa, Ontario, in Canada. Eila has twin brothers - Jack and Willem who are turning 11, and dad Jeremy, along with our dog Fergus and some chickens. We spend a lot of time living outdoors enjoying nature and our country setting.

Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1

MTEAM: You’re the CFO and Head of Operations for the FOXG1 Research Foundation. What led you to become involved in this organization and why is it important to you? 
AW:
Yes, I am the CFO for FOXG1 Research Foundation, a new role to me just last fall. It came about when I volunteered my time to help them plan the Science Symposium in San Diego last November. See, I am an event planner by day and I believe in sharing my skillset to give back to our FOXG1 community. No one is as passionate as a parent with a child afflicted with this syndrome, and it makes me feel good to be doing my part to help our kids. I had watched closely the impact this new foundation was having globally to fundraise and then fund research and being a passionate mom to a child with FOXG1 syndrome, I knew there was an opportunity to help.  When they asked me after the symposium to join the board, it just made sense to continue my efforts to help any way I could.

Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1

MTEAM: For those who have never heard of FOXG1, can you help us understand a bit about what it is and how it manifests itself? How has this condition touched your own life and perhaps even changed the course of it? 
AW:
No parent is ever prepared for a non-typical baby experience. Especially as a first time parent, you are learning so much as it is, as it is all new to you. You blissfully think it will be just like you see all around you, snuggles, dirty diapers, burping, play, sitting, walking, talking. Then to have a baby that cries in an inconsolable way for days on end, and to watch that baby not learn typical skills like sitting up, reaching and grabbing to play with objects, or even smiling and laughing is very hard. To spend 11 years watching them never typically develop and be poked to have blood, skin, and muscle samples taken to try to find the answer? We were grateful to have found our answer, even if it took 11 years, because now we are part of this community who share similar stories of challenges and tips to support each other! Because this is a neurological syndrome, it effects Eila's entire body system. She is non-mobile, using a wheelchair to get around; she is non verbal, we have never heard the words “I love you”; she has sleep disturbances, feeding difficulties, lots of GI issues, eye sight issues, anything that requires a message from the brain to muscle movement is difficult. I have grieved. I have celebrated. We have made big compromises in how and where we raise our family to make caring for our daughter a lifetime commitment. It is not the mom life I would have expected, but it really is rewarding and I can't imagine it any differently.

Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1

MTEAM: What is a typical day at the FOXG1 Research Foundation like for you?
AW:
Each of our roles at the foundation are volunteer, which means I balance full time work and parent life along with the duties of the foundation. It can be tricky, but luckily it can be fit in any day or time of the day as needed. I maintain bookkeeping records for the foundation, provide monthly financial reports for each board meeting, work with an accountant to produce year end financial statements and the annual report. I also assist with fundraising efforts, donor relationships and communication and assist our Canadian families with completing the patient registry.

Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1

MTEAM: Tell us a bit more about Eila and her personality! (How old is she? What does she love most? What makes her happy? What makes her uniquely Eila??)
AW:
Eila is a happy-go-lucky girl; similar to the other stories you have shared, her smile and laughter can fill a room! She has a magnetic personality that others are drawn to. She is a social butterfly and loves school. She loves to use her walking frame to travel through the halls and cafeteria and seems to especially like visiting the weight room to watch the boys and listen to their tunes blaring. Typical teen :) She loves music, all kinds.  She loves books and movies, and a good joke!

Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1

MTEAM: What’s one thing you’re proud of having accomplished through the FOXG1 Research Foundation so far? 
AW:
I'm proud to have been welcomed so warmly into this group of dedicated, powerful, resilient women, to be part of a small team leading great things happening globally for the future of our kids. It's an exciting place to be right now. Things are happening so fast for the better of our kids.

Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1

MTEAM: What have been some of your biggest challenges and the best rewards along your journey with FOXG1 so far (ether with Eila or through your work)? 
AW:
Biggest challenges have been watching my child in distress and not knowing how to help her. It is painful to not be able to understand without words what is going on in her body that can cause such discomfort and try to solve it. Every day is a reward with Eila. I have watched her brothers growing into compassionate young boys with such big hearts. I have been privileged to employ and work alongside some amazing people in our community, who dedicate their life to working with children with special needs. I have seen the community rally and support us with awareness events and fundraisers when it came to needing equipment and other items. It really does take a village, and I am thankful for ours.

Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1

MTEAM: What advice would you offer to other parents who are just finding out about a similar diagnosis? How can they advocate for their own children? What resources do they have available to them either through the FOXG1 Research Foundation or elsewhere? 
AW:
I would want other parents to know we have all lived it or are living it. The family group on Facebook is a great resource to ask questions and look for support. Our foundation has initiated a caregiver committee and a special fund to assist caregivers in need.  We have already sent caregiving packages to parents in hospital with their sick child, and started a resource file for families looking for therapy, camps, support groups, other resources in their areas. They are working on lots of great ideas for the future to lessen the burden, help caregivers, and know they are supported by our community.

Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1

MTEAM: What are some of the key changes that would make the world a more inclusive place for children born with FOXG1? 
AW:
Access to consistent, available therapy, assisted devices and equipment. These things are all very expensive. For the average family, to be able to provide them to watch their child succeed is impossible!

Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1
Angie Wingerden Q and A - FOXG1

MTEAM: If there was one thing you’d most like the world to know or understand about Eila or about FOXG1 generally, what would it be? 
AW:
Eila and children like her are trapped in a body that can't express themselves the way they would like. To remember that is key; treat them with dignity and respect, always assume competency. Like every human, they want friendship, someone to listen and love them back.

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25 Best Fundraising Tips for MTeamers
 
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With just over a month and a half before the Best Buddies Challenge, it is crunch time for those of us racing to meet our fundraising commitments. Whether you’ve been chipping away at your goal for almost a year now, you’ve just joined recently or you’ve been procrastinating (easy to do, we know), here are some tips to help you make the most of the remaining weeks.

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1.) START NOW. Starting your fundraising efforts as early as possible is one of the top pieces of advice from large charities

2.) LOSE YOUR INHIBITIONS ABOUT ASKING FOR MONEY. Re-frame your thinking about fundraising and you’ll find it easier to reach out and ask for money. It’s a selfless act that will benefit other people. It’s great to feel proud of what you’d doing; others will notice and feel proud to support the cause too.

3.) KNOW YOUR CAUSE. Take a few minutes to read the “About the Cause” page on the Best Buddies website and learn as much as you can before you start fundraising. Same goes for the MTeam, and the connection between the two.

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4.) MAKE A LIST. Spend a few minutes brainstorming a list of everyone you can think of who might be willing to donate. Write them down. Work through your list with personal messages or, if possible, ask in person. Make notes. If you have a positive response, don’t forget to follow up if you don’t hear from them in a few days or a week later.

5.) ASK AND ASK AGAIN. One ask for donations is easy to ignore, especially on social media. Ask again and again. Social media posts don’t reach all of your followers. One ask by email or text or in person can be forgotten. Repeat and, if you have a positive response, follow up again if needed.

6.) ASK IN PERSON. People are far more likely to donate when you ask in person and share your story. Follow up with a text or email that has your fundraising link.

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7.) SEND EMAILS. You probably have a bigger contact list than you realize. Look through your address book and send personal, individual emails to anyone you think may consider supporting your campaign.

8.) MAKE IT PERSONAL. Know your “why” and your connection to your fundraising efforts. Perhaps you know Meredith or you have a child or another connection who could benefit from the work of Best buddies. Share this story when you’re asking for donations.

9.) LINK TO YOUR FUNDRAISING PAGE EVERYWHERE. From social media profiles to your email signature to your Whatsapp profile, there are plenty of places it’s possible to share a link. Don’t miss out on the opportunity.

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10.) “THERMOMETIZE” YOUR PROGRESS. Keep your network up to date on where you are in the fundraising process with a thermometer visual. Tell them how close you are to reaching your goal and how much help you still need from them. Canva or a screenshot of your fundraising page work well for this.

11.) CONSIDER PAYDAY. Whether most people you know are paid weekly, bi-weekly or monthly, keep this in mind when you’re asking for donations. When it’s the end of a pay period, everyone is a bit more conscious about spending money, whereas if you catch them in the first few days after payday, they’ll be more comfortable giving to your cause.

12.) RECRUIT YOUR FRIENDS. Sign up a friend and you’ll both receive $100 in your campaign through our referral program. Plus, you’ll have a runner/rider buddy that you already know and can offer each other moral support as you continue fundraising.

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13.) TALK ABOUT THE MTEAM. When you’re out and about with friends or meeting new people, talk about what you’re doing and why you got involved. You may find someone interested in making a donation. If you find someone who loves to run or cycle and may want to join the team, that’s worth a $100 donation through our referral program.

14.) EXPAND YOUR NETWORK. Ask connection and donors if they know anyone who would be interested in supporting Best Buddies. They may have a personal connection to someone with a disability and be particularly inclined to donate for disability inclusion.

15.) SHARE OUR CONTENT. Follow the MTeam on social media and, if and when our social media or blog content resonates with you, share it with your own network, along with your own comments. This may be on your Facebook page or in your Instagram stories or wherever you hang out most. Find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Twitter and YouTube. Check out our blog too.

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16.) USE VIDEO AND STORIES. If you’re asking for donations on social media, consider making a short video. A face and voice can add a new dimension to your request for donations and videos are easier to ignore. Stories show up at the top of the news feed and you can keep coming back as they disappear 24 hours later.

17.) LEAVE DONATION BOXES. It’s well worth asking around at your local cafes, shops, religious organizations or other places that have a high amount of foot traffic to see if you can leave a donation box, decorated to tell the MTeam story.

18.) CHECK FOR MATCHING FUNDS PROGRAMS. Many employers offer matching funds programs to their employees, and Best Buddies accepts these, so check in with the people who have made a donation and see if their company has something like this that can double their impact.

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19.) ORGANIZE A BAKE SALE. If you have kids at a school or belong to a religious organization or can get your employer on board, see if you can gather fellow parents/worshippers/co-workers together to host a bake sale where the profits go into your fundraising campaign.

20.) HOST AN EVENT. Whether it’s a dinner, a movie night, a kids play date or a party, put in some extra effort and charge a small amount of “admission”, explaining to your guests that you’re hosting the event to raise a bit of money for your fundraising campaign. They will most likely be happy to go along with this.

21.) SET UP YOUR FACEBOOK BIRTHDAY CHARITY. If you’re lucky enough to have a birthday coming up, Facebook allows you to “donate” your birthday to a cause. Set it up as a personal cause rather than selecting Best Buddies so that you can manually transfer the funds to your own fundraising campaign rather than them going directly to Best Buddies.

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22.) SUGGEST A GIVING EXCHANGE. If consumerism gets you down over the holiday season, suggest exchanging donations with a friend instead of physical presents this year. You could do the same for your birthday.

23.) SEND HANDWRITTEN NOTES. In a time where virtual communication rules and clutter is everywhere, a handwritten note may be just what is needed to stand out, whether you’re asking for donations or saying thank you. Use a short and memorable bit.ly link that can easily be typed into a browser.

24.) CLEAR YOUR CLUTTER & DONATE IN YOUR OWN NAME. While ideally your donations will come from others, there’s nothing wrong with taking advantage of spring cleaning and either hosting a yard sale or popping a bunch of listings up on eBay. Donate the profits to your own campaign. Making a donation under your name can also be a great way to encourage others as it shows you’re supporting your own cause, not just asking others for help.

25.) GET INTO THE COMPETITIVE SPIRIT! It’s not a competition, but make an effort to connect with other MTeamers in our private Facebook group where we share a weekly leaderboard each Friday. A friendly spirit of competition can help push us along.

MTEAMERS: If you haven’t signed up yet, be sure to join our closed Facebook group for MTeamers where we’re encouraging all of you to share tips with one another.

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10 Minutes with Tracy Figueiroa Rego

Meet Tracy and her daughter, Mia, who has an impressive collection of sunglasses, the most glamorous hair we’ve ever seen on a 3-year-old and a very contagious smile. She was born with an incredibly rare genetic condition called Bohring Opitz Syndrome, but we’ll let Tracy tell you more about that below, along with a few of the things Mia loves most and one way we can all help make the world a more inclusive place her and her family as well as others with special needs.

 
Tracy Figueiroa Rego - Bohring Opitz Syndroms
 

MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.
TRACY FIGUEIROA REGO:
My name is Tracy and I am the mother of two kids, Henry and Mia. Henry will be five next month and Mia, three.  I am a full time mom, care taker and work part time. I am originally from Indiana and my husband Tomás is from Portugal. My husband and I just finished foster classes and will be fostering a boy soon; our goal is to adopt.  

I work part time for an after school program. I keep a pack and play in my classroom so Mia is comfortable.  The kids are young, 5-7 year olds, and love having her in the room. They ask a lot of questions especially when they see me feeding her by tube. I am honest with the children and explain that Mia is severely disabled, both mentally and physically. They know she is non-verbal and non-mobile but they don’t understand it’s forever.  Throughout the day all the kids will visit her crib and smile. They do not understand her condition, but I believe they know she’s special. 

Mia - Bohring Opitz Syndrome
Mia - Bohring Opitz Syndrome

MTEAM: Mia was born with Bohring Opitz Syndrome (BOS). How common is it? Can you explain a bit about what it is exactly for those who are unfamiliar and how it has manifested itself in Mia’s life in particular? 
TFR: Mia received her feeding tube at seven months and was diagnosed with BOS by her first birthday.  Mia wears glasses and cannot hold her neck up, swallow, suck a pacifier, hold toys, roll over, sit up, walk, talk or feed orally.  She is extremely tiny; she weighs 12 pounds and is turning 3-years-old April 28th. 

BOS is an extremely rare genetic syndrome. There are approximately 150-200 cases worldwide. This syndrome is diagnosed by genetic testing and is a mutation in the ASXL1 gene. The leading cause of death is respiratory infections. Children with BOS can have feeding difficulties, recurring respiratory infections, sleep apnea, developmental delay, failure to thrive, abnormal hair density, Wilm’s Tumors, Brain abnormalities, silent aspiration, and the list goes on. 

Mia - Bohring Opitz Syndrome
Mia - Bohring Opitz Syndrome

MTEAM: Tell us a bit more about Mia! (How old is she? What does she love most? What makes her happy? What makes her uniquely Mia??)
TFR:
Mia has the sweetest personality!!  She smiles ALL the time and is known for her beautiful hair, eyes and fashion! She never cries and will give anyone who touches her toes the warmest smile. She loves to snuggle her big brother, long walks to look at the palm trees and she loves lights. 

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MTEAM: What’s a typical day in Mia’s life like?
TFR:
Mia likes to stay awake most of the night and sleep during the day.  I try and stay awake with her until 1am then she’ll lay in her pack and play next to our bed and play with her toys until 4am. She typically sleeps 4am-1pm. A typical day is therapy, taking both kids to playgrounds or other activities, work, then bath time.  Mia has a special bath chair to help us bath her. She also has a wheelchair, back brace, leg braces and a stander. 

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Mia - Bohring Opitz Syndrome

MTEAM: What have been some of your biggest challenges and the best rewards along your journey with Mia so far? 
TFR:
It took months to figure out her diet. She was on a feeding tube formula that made her extremely constipated and in pain daily.  We now give her a blended diet and she’s doing great. Another challenge is getting Mia to move. She does not move much on her own, so we want to constantly move her arms, legs and torso to help blood flow and quality of life. 

Mia is amazing and has touched so many lives.  She reminds people to slow down and enjoy the little things. 

Because of Mia, we have held multiple fundraisers and raised over 15k for the BOS foundation. 100% is given to the foundation and the funds were raised through friends, family and even strangers since her diagnosis.  When people meet Mia they fall in love with her and she leaves a lasting impression. 

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Mia - Bohring Opitz Syndrome

MTEAM: What advice would you offer to other parents who are just finding out about a Bohring Opitz Syndrome diagnosis?
TFR:
We have a Facebook support group for BOS parents. Once a month, someone new will be added and you remember the day when you first received the diagnosis. It’s tough. You know how they feel and how scared they are, but we show each other support, help answer the never-ending questions and share challenges.  They become extended family. I always tell them it’s scary at first, but you will find love for that child that you’ve never felt before. The very small achievements they accomplish will light up your world. 

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MTEAM: How would you like to hear other parents respond if their own children notice and ask questions about Mia’s physical differences?
TFR:
We get asked a lot of questions, especially by kids when Mia is being fed by her feeding machine because they see the bag and tube. Most parents will say “Sorry!!” And I’ll tell them, “It’s ok!! We want them to ask!”  And I will kneel down and talk directly to the child and explain what is happening.  Every child I’ve done this with smiles and says Aweee, she’s so cute” and looks a little confused but happy that I’ve answered their question. Before Mia, I had never seen a feeding tube, so we make it a point to tell everyone about her life and syndrome. One response I hate is when people say “I am so sorry”. Please never do that to a special needs parent. We love our children just like everyone else and we are very proud of her just the way she is. 

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MTEAM: What key changes would make this a more inclusive world for children with Bohring Opitz Syndrome?
TFR:
If you see someone struggling, make eye contact and offer a helping hand. I have been with both kids and Mia in her wheelchair and people will avoid eye contact with me, but stare at Mia. We also struggle with people offering to hold the door as we enter restaurants, businesses, ladies rooms, etc. It is challenging because Mia’s wheelchair weighs a lot, so it’s hard to push it and hold the door at the same time. I know it’s upsetting to see someone so small in a wheelchair, but please don’t avoid us and help when you see someone in need.

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Mia - Bohring Opitz Syndrome

MTEAM: Share a memory of one of the times you’ve been especially proud of Mia.
TFR:
Just this morning Mia had a bad seizure and fell asleep smiling at me. She and her BOS brothers and sisters are the strongest little humans I know. 

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Mia - Bohring Opitz Syndrome

MTEAM: What’s one thing you’d like the world to know about Mia or Bohring Opitz Syndrome or medically complex or fragile children generally?
TFR:
Medically fragile children are as precious as a typical child. You do not celebrate the same milestones, but you find joy that you never knew you could have. Most will never ask you for the newest video game, bike or iPad because all they want and need is your unconditional love. 

Bohring-Opitz Appreciation Day is April 6th. 

10 Minutes with: Jessa Marmol

Jessa, her husband Marvin, and 4-year-old Theo live in the Philippines and she fights daily to understand Theo’s medical complexities, take him to necessary appointments and do all she can to give him the best life possible wile Marvin works hard to support the family financially. Below, she talks about Theo’s journey with Cerebral Palsy and Epilepsy along with several other secondary conditions, what a day in their life is like and a few things that could make life a bit better for both of them as well as other children with similar conditions for whom Jessa also advocates.

 
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MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.
JESSA MARMOL:
I am Jessa C. Marmol, a stay-at-home and hands-on mom, married to Marvin Marmol who is a private employee. We are from the Philippines. I do a lot of research about Theo’s condition most of the time, which I truly enjoy. I am helping my husband sustain the cost of medication of our son by selling fundraising items and securing help from private and government agencies. I am not just a mom who wants the best for her own kid; I’m also an advocate for other babies with Cerebral Palsy and Epilepsy here in the Philippines. Together with my husband, our son Theo and volunteers from a private clinic, we conduct programs and activities that help families with children who have Cerebral Palsy and Epilepsy learn more about their respective conditions and how to properly treat them, for free. 

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MTEAM: Your son Theo has several different diagnoses. Can you explain these to us in a way that we can understand? How do they impact his (and your own) daily life?
JM:
Theo was a premature baby, born at 35 weeks on February 20, 2015. He stayed for 23 days in NICU. To date, he has a working diagnosis of Secondary Spastic Quadriplegic Cerebral Palsy / Focal Epilepsy with several secondary conditions: Reversible Obstructive Airway Disease (asthma), Laryngo-Tracheo-Malacia, Allergic Rhinitis, Cortical Blindness or CVi and Astigmatism. 

10 Minutes with Jessa Marmol

These conditions happened because he suffered Hypoxia or lack of oxygen to the brain, Meconium Aspiration Syndrome and Sepsis since I had an emergency caesarian delivery as per my gynaecologist’s advice due to a hormonal imbalance resulting in Pre-eclampsia. From there, Theo had a congenital heart disease, had a pneumothorax which resulted to his right lung collapsing, seizure episodes, Intraventricular Hemorrhage grade 4, Subarachnoid Hemorrhage and Moderate Communicating Hydrocephalus (no shunt) that almost led to Theo’s loss of life. He was revived twice during his NICU days.

But God is good. He treated all of Theo’s conditions one at a time. This journey tested our faith and made us strong and brave like Theo when he was fighting for his life. We were challenged, but we’re also hopeful that if we trusted God every single day, everything would be alright.

 
10 Minutes with Jessa Marmol
 

MTEAM: Tell us more about Theo! (How old is he? What does he love most? What makes him happy? What makes him uniquely Theo??)
JM:
Theo just turned 4-years-old this February 20. These past few months, he has loved and enjoyed our DIY aquatherapy, but we stopped it recently because of the cold season. He’s happy when I tell him that we are going to go out to visit his teachers or to the arcade when we do our main shopping. He also loves to watch a witty little girl on social media. 

What makes him unique is that, despite his condition, he really is smart. He can communicate in his own way through his facial expressions and voice intonations and he keeps on moving if he needs something to do. Theo is a vegetarian too and consumes little milk.

10 Minutes with Jessa Marmol

MTEAM: What’s a typical day in Theo’s life like?
JM:
Our days are full of DIY therapies inspired by social media. We also spend time on the usual mneals and activities. Theo is following a normal number of meals, eating three times a day. It is the ideal eating habit and it is also the easiest and a less tiring pattern for me. Before, we spent two hours on feeding time per meal, but now he can drink his smoothie diet and take his medicines in 10 minutes and spend just 30 minutes eating his puree. We only attend formal Bobath Therapy once a week because we cannot make the recommended 2-3x sessions due to financial constraints. However, that is not a reason to stop doing therapies; I make sure to ask his therapist and learn the basic approach to do the same at home.

10 Minutes with Jessa Marmol

MTEAM: You’re currently fundraising for something called Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy. What is this and how will it benefit Theo? You’re also looking for sponsorship for a medical stroller. Tell us a bit about this too.
JM:
Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy is one of the newest treatments for Cerebral Palsy and it has been proven in other countries to really help the brain’s hypoxic disorder and epilepsy as well as improve the upper respiratory system. That means Theo’s brain will get enough oxygen. There’s a child with Cerebral Palsy I know here in the Philippines who is having this therapy. There’s been development after a series of HBOT sessions and her milestones are noticeable. That’s why I’d like to try it with Theo. As his parents, we want to give him a better life. (If you’d like to contribute to Jessa’s Simply Giving campaign, click the link above).

I am also looking for a sponsor for a lightweight medical stroller too because we seldom experience having a companion come along to our check-up routines and therapies and our visits to secure medical help from private and government offices, thus making it a little difficult when just the two of us go out. My husband has to be hardworking to sustain our primary needs and the costs of Theo’s medication, so he can’t always accompany us. I am using a sling now that is meant for babywearing to make our travel easier, but it is not bearable carrying him far anymore because of his heavy weight. He is big for his age. The medical stroller will also help Theo to have perfect posture when sitting, even when we are outside, make him comfortable whenever we are on an outreach program or when we are waiting for his medical appointments. Lastly, the stroller will simply make our travel easier.

10 Minutes with Jessa Marmol

MTEAM: What have been some of your biggest challenges and the best rewards along your journey as Theo’s mom so far?
JM:
One of the typical challenges is that I have to keep myself strong and healthy. I am carrying him daily from feeding, bathing and other activities, so I can’t be sick and I have to be okay even if I’m not. Other than that, I have to always think about how I will make Theo’s life better. As a parent of a child with special needs, I have to keep in mind the word bravery. I have to be brave to hide my true feelings, hold my emotions to be focused and be strong during every situation in our journey and face all the challenges head on. I have to be an optimist at all times and instill in my mind that no matter how hard the situation is, I trust myself and Theo’s abilities because God is always on our side. I have to be a persistent parent. I have to be fearless in searching for answers, trying my best and learning all about his condition. I have to be an advocate for my own son to change the way how he is able to face his own challenges. 

Seeing Theo’s progress everyday despite his multiple conditions and hearing people say that Theo seems like he does not have a severe condition fuels me to continue to do what I do. Also, I am able to inspire other warrior moms, encourage them and give them hope that even in the hardest part of this journey with our kids, there are ways to keep standing tall.

10 Minutes with Jessa Marmol

MTEAM: How have you been advocating for Theo so far?
JM:
I’ve been like a researcher, scientist, doctor, nurse, nutritionist, therapist and a warrior mom from the day that Theo was born. I do a lot of research and read articles that are relevant to Theo’s condition. I write my personal blog about his Cerebral Palsy/Epilepsy and other health imbalances, proper nutrition and home therapies and developments.  We joined the Celebrity Fashion Show organized by Miss Possibilities Foundation, Inc last December 2017 to spread social awareness for Theo and social awareness to the society that beauty knows no boundaries. We were also invited as guests on one of the local TV shows to spread Cerebral Palsy awareness. I am selling a statement social awareness shirt to fundraise, too.

I started blogging and using social media in May 2016 to share our challenging journey. I continue sharing my advocacy and work with the non-profit organization called Cerebral Palsy Family Awareness Support Group Ph. Inc (CEFASGPH). We organized 11 events within one year; one of our major events was the World Cerebral Palsy Day Philippines 2018.  

We are planning to visit as many places as possible here in the Philippines to show that even if Theo isn’t capable of doing everything a “normal” kid does, he is able to inspire families and spread Cerebral Palsy/Epilepsy awareness with the help of a volunteer Bobath Therapist from the private therapy center, kindhearted sponsors and established organizations who serve as our major sponsors.

10 Minutes with Jessa Marmol

MTEAM: What key changes do you think would make this a more inclusive world for children with complex medical needs like Theo?
JM:
It should start within the families of all children with special needs. Acceptance is the key, but accepting their condition is not the only thing that we should do. Learning intensely about our children’s conditions as a family will be a huge help with campaign awareness and outreach for all of the disoriented families in the special need family community. We (parents of children with special needs) are the ones who should take the initiative to share our journey with the larger community despite what the rest of society does -- the staring judgmental eyes and throwing of insensitive words. By doing that continually, I’m pretty sure that future amazing kids with special needs that they will encounter will never experience what the first special needs family experienced when they meet that person.

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Second, the health institutions and medical practitioners here in the Philippines need to help us to learn as much as possible and conduct more research about conditions like Cerebral Palsy and Epilepsy. We should be passionate and be resourceful in treating our children with multiple conditions.

Third, our government should support, strengthen and develop firm programs for paediatrics to deal with neurological conditions. Support from this institution will help us to sustain their medication to improve their conditions to avoid extreme disability.

If this happens, I’m sure that the other world of special need kids like Theo will flip to a sustainable inclusiveness around the world. Family to community, community to society, and society to the world.

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MTEAM: Share a memory of one of the times you’ve been especially proud of Theo.
JM:
This picture below reminds me how strong he is. Theo had an oxygen support the first five months of his life like he had when he was in NICU. He was able to remove his ventilator on his own and wean off his oxygen when he was 5-months-old. And even though Theo has an oral gastric tube and nasal canula during these five months, I wasn’t able to let him suck on a pacifier for a long time. When he did, he would suck for about a second and when he realized that there was no milk coming out, he would spit it out and cry loudly. Such a smart little one. 

 
10 Minutes with Jessa Marmol
 

MTEAM: What’s one thing you’d like the world to know about Theo?
JM:
Theo is a smart, kind, cooperative, strong and brave boy. Smart because despite his complex condition, he’s still be able to communicate in his own way. He’s kind and cooperative because even if he is unwell, I don’t have a problem feeding him. He won’t cry and will just have his meal by drinking and eating his smoothie and blended food. Theo is a mouth feeding boy despite his airway defect.

Theo is the strongest of the strongest and bravest of the bravest kids I know. He’s facing a lot of challenges along his journey, but he remains strong and brave like the way he has been since he was born. 

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Meet the MTeam: Steve & Linda Lowy

Meet Steve and Linda Lowy, returning MTeamers who are ready to travel from their home in London to Hyannis Port, MA to tackle another Best Buddies Challenge with us in 2019! Steve is also the CEO of Anglo Educational Services in London, who are one of the MTeam’s corporate sponsors. We thank them for their incredibly generous $5,000 donation to our campaign this year.

Below, Steve and Linda talk about why they joined the MTeam, what keeps them motivated both mentally and physically and how they are training now to take the challenge in June.

 
Meet the MTeam - Steve and Linda Lowy
 

MTEAM: When and why did you decide to join the MTeam? 
STEVE & LINDA LOWY:
The team captain John is both persuasive and inspirational in equal measures. We did the Best Buddies Challenge race two years ago on a tandem which was a challenge, but very rewarding. We have been following the progress and the team since and just felt we should do it to support the wonderful cause.

Meet the MTeam - Steve and Linda Lowy

MTEAM: Why is the MTeam and the Best Buddies mission important to you?
S&LL:
Coming from the UK and Sweden, we are very lucky to have national health systems that try to support kids with various conditions such as those experienced by the people supported by Best Buddies. We both feel the charity does so many good things to help to make their lives more fulfilling and enjoyable. It is a no-brainer to support them. 

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MTEAM: What’s one thing you’ve learned from being part of the MTeam community?
S&LL:
It is a team that is very passionate about their cause!

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MTEAM: What makes the MTeam special? What would inspire people to join you?
S&LL:
It genuinely feels like a team of people who are all working together, no matter what physical capacity, to support the charity. 

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MTEAM: Did you walk, run or ride in the last Best Buddies Challenge? Describe the atmosphere of the event for us!
S&LL:
We did 100 miles on a tandem in 2017 that was both a challenge physically and for our marriage ;-) but the atmosphere was amazing!

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MTEAM: Tell us about your training regime and how you prepare yourself for the physical challenge.
S&LL:
Since we live in London, we don’t cycle here but we are both doing 3/4 spin classes a week combined with HIIT training and 5/10k runs to keep stamina going. Linda is a regular in the yoga studio and Steve plays tennis and football regularly too.

Meet the MTeam - Steve and Linda Lowy

MTEAM: Mentally, what helps you reach the finish line and keep pushing yourself toward your goals? 
S&LL:
The fact we are helping others.

MTEAM: How did you feel when you crossed the finish line last year?
S&LL:
Relieved, rewarded and happy we could contribute to a great cause.

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MTEAM: What’s your best piece of advice for MTeam newbies and one piece of advice for returning MTeamers? 
S&LL:
Just go for it. Stretch yourselves and make sure you remember you are doing it for a wonderful cause.

Meet the MTeam - Steve and Linda Lowy

MTEAM: Share an MTeam memory that has been the most powerful and inspiring for you so far.
S&LL:
Being treated to the smiles of the young people we were helping throughout the route of the cycle ride. 

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10 Minutes with: Isabella Evans of "Isabella Signs"

Meet Isabella Evans from South Wales, who you may recognize from the “Isabella Signs” videos we’ve shared many times on the MTeam’s Facebook page. She creates daily signing videos, usually with her siblings involved, using the Makaton language.

It’s easy to forget that she’s just 13-years-old when you hear about all she has already accomplished, on top of being an amazing big sister to two brothers who both have special needs and a little sister too.

We caught up with her to find out more about why she started signing, why it’s important to her, what it’s like to be a special needs sibling and how that might influence her future career choices.

Isabella answered all of our questions in video format and they are also transcribed below, so take your pick!

MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.
ISABELLA EVANS:
Hi, my name is Isabella Evans. I’m 13-years-old, and I live in Bridgend (near Cardiff) in South Wales. I have three siblings, two brothers and a sister. Alexander is 9-years-old and he has cerebral palsy; Lucas is six and he has down syndrome and Indiana is five.

Izzy and her siblings

Izzy and her siblings

MTEAM: What keeps you busy beyond the daily signing videos you create.
IE:
I do a fair bit of modelling. I’ve done multiple campaigns and I’ve been published online at Vogue Italia. I work at a swim school two nights a week helping the little ones swim and I just enjoy going out with my friends. 

Isabella for Vogue Italia

Isabella for Vogue Italia

MTEAM: You’ve built an amazing community on social media where you share signing videos, usually with your siblings involved. Can you tell us a bit about when and why you started doing this and why it’s important to you? 
IE:
I started doing sign language because obviously I’ve mentioned Lucas has down syndrome so he is non-verbal. I’ve always wanted to communicate with him so I thought sign language was definitely the best way possible.

I remember my mum’s friend and her little son who has down syndrome came round and I was signing to my favorite song (which is Rockabye), so my mum took out the camera because she thought it was really cute. She uploaded it to Facebook and it got like 30,000 views in a couple of days. So that’s when I realized that other people want to learn and that they need help communicating with their loved ones who are non-verbal, who have additional needs. So that’s why I started this, to help other people. 

Isabella next to boxes with herself on in Smyths

Isabella next to boxes with herself on in Smyths

MTEAM: Tell us about the specific type of signing you use in your videos and explain a bit about what it is and how it works for those of us who are unfamiliar. 
IE:
In my videos, I use Makaton. If I can’t find a word in Makaton, then I would resort to using BSL (British Sign Language). With Lucas, Makaton is a lot easier for him to pick up, so that’s why we use that with Lucas.

 
Isabella and Coco (Lucus)

Isabella and Coco (Lucus)

 

MTEAM: What resources would you recommend to someone, beyond your amazing videos, that would help them learn to sign? 
IE:
Oh my gosh, there’s so many! If you look at my facebook page, I have a pinned post with them all on there. Some of the main ones are definitely the Makaton Charity because they’re the ones who made this incredible language. Two lovely ladies called Suzanne and Tracy from Singing Hands. They’re amazing and they’ve helped me so much. There’s a lot of other ones, especially some unofficial pages like Sign Along with Us and Genna and Jaxon who are amazing. There’s just so many that I couldn’t name them all.

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MTEAM: Tell us more about your siblings! What do each of them love most? What makes them happy? What makes them uniquely Lucas, Alexander and Indiana?
IE:
I’ll start with Alexander. Alexander enjoys Xbox and playing Fortnite. He also loves to dance. Obviously he tried as hard as he can because he has cerebral palsy, but he puts as much effort in as he can. But his favorite move is probably the Floss. He does it all the time. We can be in Tesco (supermarket) and he’ll be there flossing in the queue.

Lucas enjoys Avengers, Lego Ninjago and he also likes to dance as well. Even when he had his gallbladder removed and he was in pain, he was still dancing.

Indiana is a proper girly girl. She like anything pink, glittery, shiny, anything with the word unicorn in it, rainbows, coloring, anything girls; she loves it. 

Isabella in hospital with Lucus when he was in recovery after having his gallbladder removed recently; she adores him

Isabella in hospital with Lucus when he was in recovery after having his gallbladder removed recently; she adores him

MTEAM: How has being a big sister, specifically to two brothers with individual special needs, influenced your life so far? Maybe it's too early to tell, but do you think being a big sis to Lucas and Alexander will influence your future career choices at all?
IE:
Yea, definitely. I’ve always wanted to help people and with experience helping Lucas and Alexander, that’s definitely made me realise 100% that I either want to be e a teacher or just something to do with children with disabilities. It’s just amazing. I love, like with Lucas and Alexander, just spending tie with them. I get along with them so well, so with other children, it would be really nice to work with them.

Isabella, Lucus and Indiana - on a fine art shoot (they aren’t meant to smile)

Isabella, Lucus and Indiana - on a fine art shoot (they aren’t meant to smile)

MTEAM: What are some of the ways you most enjoy bonding with your siblings?
IE:
Cinema time. When we go to the cinema we enjoy it so much. And that’s one of my favorite times  with the kids. But also, my signing! When we’re all sat here at the table, it’s just amazing when we’re all signing together. And you guys get to see it every day!

Sibling bonding time

Sibling bonding time

MTEAM: What would you say to someone who is struggling with their role as a sibling to someone with special needs?
IE:
Just obviously understand that they’re probably struggling as well because maybe they can’t communicate with you or something. They are struggling as well. Just take it day by day, breathe and just be patient; be really patient with them.

Isabella Signs featured in a model magazine

Isabella Signs featured in a model magazine

MTEAM: How could the world become a more inclusive place for Lucas and Alexander to grow up in?
IE:
I think just having more awareness of people with disabilities. That would definitely help them massively.

Trying on the clothes they would be wearing the following day for an appearance on This Morning with Phil Schofield and Rochelle (TV show)

Trying on the clothes they would be wearing the following day for an appearance on This Morning with Phil Schofield and Rochelle (TV show)

MTEAM: If there was one thing you’d most like the world to know about Lucas and about Alexander that you haven’t said here already, what would it be?
IE:
They entertain me and my whole family so much, all the time. Literally I’ll be watching TV, just minding my own business, and Lucas and Alexander will come in front of me and they’ll either do something hilarious or they’ll just be sat there laughing at something. Alexander’s laugh makes everyone laugh because it’s just so funny. I just love them both so much and they’re just hilarious. 

People need to remember that Lucas and Alexander are more alike than different. And what I mean by that is that they’re more like me and you, and yea, they’ve got a few additional things going on, but that doesn’t make them any different to us. They’re exactly the same as us. And that’s how they need to be treated. They need to be treated the same as us and not differently. That’s something that I definitely need to get across.

 
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MTeam Spring Fundraising Gala: Casino Night

“We just had another amazing MTeam Auction and Casino Night fundraiser! So fortunate to be surrounded by so much love and support. Life changing. This picture says it all.” - Mer’s dad, Greg Lewis

Mer, up on stage with the auctioneer pumping up the the crowd to make it rain!

Mer, up on stage with the auctioneer pumping up the the crowd to make it rain!

We’re thrilled to announce that our annual spring gala last weekend raised another $25,150 for our 2019 campaign for Best Buddies International and disability inclusion. 

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We want to extend a huge thank you to everyone who made this event possible:

  • CAPA The Global Education Network who let us transform their Boston offices into an amazing casino;

  • everyone who donated an item or experience to our auction and raffle;

  • our auctioneer extraordinaire - Mer’s grandpa Jim Lewis;

  • Colette from Collettey’s Cookies who came to speak;

  • the team that organised the event;

  • Aaron Wong for taking photos and videos during the evening;

  • Meredith Lewis for pumping up the crowd during the auction;

  • Catherine Colon for dealing cards for our casino games;

  • and of course to everyone who attended and donated to our fundraising efforts!

Jim Lewis - Auctioneer extraordinaire

Jim Lewis - Auctioneer extraordinaire

“This was my third MTeam Gala as auctioneer, and I was very excited with the results. I thought the -Raise the Paddle’ initiative did extremely well too, ending up with a sizeable total after only about seven minutes!  Well done, MTeam!!” - Jim Lewis

The “Raise the Paddle” initiative allowed people to supporting the MTeam at five different levels of giving. We started at $1000, $500, $250, $100, and $50. People raised their paddles and paid their pledge at checkout! We raised about $7500 in a matter of minutes. Very generous!

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Auction and raffle items included trips to Cape Cod, England, Barcelona, Sydney and Hong Kong, a chance to play football with Tom Brady, passes to the Tom Brady Best Buddies football event, a signed Tom Brady football, a signed Tom Brady jersey, passes to the Best Buddies Challenge after party at the Kennedy Compound, passes to the Guy Fieri Celebrity Chef Food and Wine Festival Dinner, a homemade lap-size quilt by master quilter Mary Beth Dittoro, a Wahoo indoor cycling trainer - Kickr, 3 Celtics tickets, a gothic tube bird feeder by Pat Sadler of Sadler Garden Collections, a mini bar and glasses, 1/2 case of Bordeaux wine, a Fitbit Alta, a sculpture, a visa card for $150 valid at any restaurant, a $150 voucher for goods and services at Apex Velo, and two paintings by Beverly Sky.

MTeam captain John Christian with speaker Collette and her mother Rosemary

MTeam captain John Christian with speaker Collette and her mother Rosemary

Now that the evening has come to an end, we’ll be pouring our focus into our final stretch of fundraising as we aim to reach our $250,000 goal this year. We’ll also be training for the Best Buddies Challenge which is just three months away.

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We’re always looking for new runners and cyclists to join the MTeam. We’re family-friendly. Everyone is welcome. We’re also always open to donations to our campaign from those who aren’t ready to commit to becoming a member.

Everything we do is for disability inclusion and our fundraising supports Best Buddies International whose four pillars of work include one-to-one friendships, integrated employment, leadership development and inclusive living.

MTeam Auction: Online bidding is open!

Dear MTeamers and Friends:

We are all very excited to host our “Fedoras & Sequins: A Night at the Casino” event casino this Saturday (March 2, in Boston)! We have amazing speakers, food, bar and, of course, the casino games, an auction and a raffle.

For the first time ever this year, we are thrilled to announce that were opening up the auction to those aren’t attending on the night and we will accept email bids in advance for the first time too.

Have a look through the slideshow below with our auction items (best expanded to full screen!) and if you’re interested in bidding on an item, send your maximum bid to us by email with your phone number so we can manage the payment should you be successful:

EMAIL BIDS TO DAMITA AT djohnson@capa.org. (Please be specific as to which item and your maximum bid in USD.)
NOTE: The deadline for bids is Saturday 2 March at 1pm EST.  

PLEASE EXPAND SLIDESHOW TO FULL SCREEN OR VIEW HERE!

We’ll also have 10 generously donated raffle items available on the night including 3 Celtics box seat tickets, a gothic tube bird feeder from Sadler Garden Collections, a mini bar and glasses, 1/2 case of Bordeaux wine, a Fitbit Alta, a decorative sculpture, a $150 visa card valid at any restaurant and a $150 voucher for goods and services at Apex Velo.

All of the proceeds from the tickets, auction and raffle will go into our campaign for Best Buddies International and our goal to raise $250,000 to support their work for disability inclusion this year!

If you would like to attend there are still a few tickets.
TICKETS AVAILABLE HERE!

Thanks to all who have made this possible and all who participate, for donations and for your support!

Wish us luck!

John and the Mteam

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10 Minutes with: Nicole Johnson

Meet Nicole Zeitzer Johnson who is making real strides toward helping scientists find a cure for FOXG1 syndrome (the rare genetic condition that both her daughter Josie and the MTeam’s Chief Motivating Officer Meredith were both born with) through her work as a co-founder, President and Chief Communications Officer of the FOXG1 Research Foundation. Below, she talks about her work with the Foundation, shares some insight into her life with Josie and gives her best advice for parents receiving a similar diagnosis for their own child.

 
Interview Nicole Johnson - FOXG1
 

MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself and your family. 
NICOLE JOHNSON:
I’m Nicole Zeitzer Johnson. I live in Long Island, New York, outside Manhattan, with my husband, Rich and our son Tanner (12) and daughter Josie (7). We’re a big music family; my husband is in the music business, as was I until this past year when I co-founded the FOXG1 Research Foundation.

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MTEAM: You’re a Co-founder and President of the FOXG1 Research Foundation. Who are the other co-founders and what led you to start the FOXG1 Research Foundation?
NJ:
The following story is an excerpt from the FOXG1 Research Foundation website:

Nasha Fitter in California, Nicole Johnson in New York, and Christine Revkin in Switzerland, each experienced the same life-changing, heartbreaking event that inevitably brought them together.

Their children, Amara, Josie, and Nathanaël, were not meeting simple milestones. What was happening? They endured MRIs, EEGs, and test after test after test, months and years spent trying to find a diagnosis. Finally, they each learned their child was born with a rare, severe genetic condition called Foxg1 syndrome.

They were all told their children would be intellectually disabled, they would probably never walk, talk, sit up unassisted, eat without a feeding tube, and were likely to suffer from seizures and undergo many operations.

These three moms refused to accept the prognosis without doing something about it. The questions came pouring in: what is being done about this? Are there scientists researching this gene? Are there trials in the works? What is known?

The answer was - not much. There was very little known about Foxg1 syndrome and in the age of exponential advances in genetic research, they all knew that someone had to take action.  

(READ THE FULL STORY OF HOW THE FOUNDATION WAS FORMED HERE)

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MTEAM: For those who have never heard of FOXG1, can you help us understand a bit about what it is and how it manifests itself? How has this condition touched your own life and perhaps even changed the course of it?
NJ:
Foxg1 syndrome is a very rare neurological genetic condition caused by a mutation of the Foxg1 gene. It’s mostly non-inherited, meaning my husband and I are not carriers; it’s a spontaneous mutation of the gene. It’s congenital, meaning Josie was born with FOXG1 syndrome. There is a spectrum of mutation types and some kids are less severe than others, but for Josie (and many) it is severe. 

Josie is seven years old and she cannot walk, talk, crawl, or even sit up without falling. She is fed with a feeding tube and she suffers from epilepsy. 

When we got Josie’s diagnosis, which took two years of endless tests to get, Josie was the 60th known person in the world with FOXG1 syndrome. Today there are 500 known; the diagnosis rate is growing at 100% year. But when I learned of this condition I felt helpless. There was so little known about it. There was very little research done. I thought, who is going to care about a condition with so few patients? But I’ve learned something incredible. I’ve learned that there are many scientists who are eager to study Foxg1 because it happens to be a very interesting and important gene. Foxg1 was originally called Brain Factor 1 because it is one of the first and most critical genes in brain development. It’s a transcription factor that creates a protein that turns on other genes. It is responsible for telling the brain what to do. Scientists are finding links from Foxg1 to many brain disorders that affect millions of people, such as autism, Alzheimer’s, schizophrenia, and brain cancers. 

This made me realize that if we can do the work to find a cure for FOXG1 syndrome, we have the potential to help solve much more. Imagine that’s why we’re here? 

When my co-founders and I got together to drive research forward to find a cure for every child in the world with Foxg1 syndrome, I felt this unexplainable inspiration that our work is meaningful beyond measure. I use the term “beyond measure” quite often. 

Every scientist funded, every collaboration of researchers, every minute spent in the lab can change the blueprint of human life. That's another sentence I'm hot on - change/improve the blueprint of human life.

I sit at my desk with my long-ass to-do list. Newsletter- sent! Cross it off the list. I carry my 50 pound seven-year-old totally disabled daughter around, I wipe the drool from her mouth, clean her mic-key button on her belly so it doesn't get infected, I administer a bevy of anti-seizure medications through her g-tube, and I plug away with an incredible team of FOXG1 parents to drive the research forward to change the face of this awful rare genetic disorder - not just for Josie, but for every child in the world, today and in the future, with FOXG1 syndrome.

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MTEAM: The FOXG1 Research Foundation had some remarkable achievements in 2018. Share a few highlights and tell us what you’re focusing on for 2019.
NJ:
If you look at the bullet points in the last newsletter we sent, it highlights our greatest accomplishments of 2018. One I want to point out is our Scientists Symposium we held in San Diego in November. This was a pinch-myself 3-day event where we brought together scientists from every corner of the globe who are studying Foxg1 or are interested in studying Foxg1 for a deep-dive symposium to collaborate. We held it alongside the Society for Neuroscience Conference so that it made sense for all the neuroscientists to be there.  One scientist said to me “I’ve never seen a foundation accomplish nearly what you have in one year; what you have done takes most many years to accomplish.” 

We learned so much for our research strategy by bringing all these brilliant minds together to discuss what we know so far about Foxg1 and what we need to know. (READ MORE ABOUT THE SYMPOSIUM HERE.)

For 2019, we just launched the Foxg1 Patient Registry! This is a big deal because it is so critical to have for a Pharmaceutical company to even consider investing in us (or any disorder) for clinical trials. (READ MORE ABOUT THE REGISTRY HERE.)

Our big goal for 2019 is to fund a host of research proposals that our Scientific Advisory Board has vetted and recommended we fund along our path to a cure. We need to raise an estimated $2M in 2019 to be on track along our Path to a Cure. (READ MORE ABOUT THE PROPOSALS HERE.)

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MTEAM: What is a typical day at the FOXG1 Research Foundation like for you?
NJ:
Well, I wake up and start wrapping my brain around everything we have to do, all the money we have to raise, the help we have to find, and more. Then, thanks to our CFO (also a FOXG1 mom), Angie, who has really helped me get organized, I look at our detailed to-do list. 

Every day is different as far as the jobs I am working on. I mostly cover all communication aspects of the Foundation so I might be working on a strategy document, or a presentation, or a newsletter.  I have an ambitions communications strategy that I’m trying to really get on a roll to achieve. Our newest board member and Secretary, Judith, has joined me on the communications front, which is also a great help.

But there’s so much more. I work with my partner, Nasha, on aspects of our research strategy. I’m always networking and meeting with or on calls with people whom I can learn from or perhaps that I can help. I have been invited to speak at different events in the neuroscience and biotechnology space, so that is an aspect of my role as the public-facing co-founder, President and Chief Communications Officer of our foundation.

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MTEAM: Tell us a bit more about Josie and her personality! (How old is she? What does she love most? What makes her happy? What makes her uniquely Josie??)
NJ:
Josie is the greatest gift and just ridiculously cute. Can you imagine not being able to speak, or sit up, or take care of your basic needs, I mean not even able to push yourself up in your bed, yet you smile and laugh all the time? 

I always say: if happiness is the goal in life (and isn’t it?), then Josie is winning! 

Take a look at this video at the end of this response. She laughs from her belly and everyone around her can’t help but laugh along. I could hug Josie all day; well, on the weekends that’s basically all I do. She’s delicious.

Sometimes when it’s really early and it’s just us in her room, me holding her in the rocking chair, I start crying. It’s when I let it out. And when I cry she looks at me with the same face every time like she knows how much I wish for her, and she knows I would do anything to give her the abilities she deserves, but every time, without fail, while I sit there holding her with tears on my cheeks, she starts laughing at me. Every time! 

Not to sound too spiritual, but deep down Josie and me both know she is going to change the world.  She gives everyone an incredible sense of perspective. I want everyone to recognize that she is smiling and happy despite her head-to-toe disabilities. 

MTEAM: What have been some of your biggest challenges and the best rewards along your journey with FOXG1 so far?
NJ:
When the seizures started and they were severe, grand mal, and it took more than a year to get them under control, well, that was one of the most difficult times of my life. I was living outside my body. I couldn’t sleep. In fact, for six months my husband and I took turns staying up all night watching Josie. Now we have night nurse care, thank gosh! Multiple ambulance rides, multiple stays in the hospital, and just overall fear and helplessness. Yeah, that was the worst. She is doing much better now on her anti-seizure medicinal cocktail of three heavy-duty medications, topped off with CBD oil, which is the medicine that made the biggest difference. 

My biggest challenge now is how heavy she’s getting. I really need to get us into a handicap accessible home.

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MTEAM: What advice would you offer to other parents who are just finding out about a similar diagnosis? How can they advocate for their own children? What resources do they have available to them either through the FOXG1 Research Foundation or elsewhere?
NJ:
The first thing I want to tell them is to feel everything they feel and do not feel ashamed of it. It’s a process for many. I hope to share my optimistic outlook that while this isn’t easy, there is something very special about it. I try to stay in the mindset that our lives are just different. My family really doesn’t have a woe-is-me attitude. We are not owed anything and we were not cheated out of anything. We are grateful every day for Josie and that she is doing much better today than she was a few years ago when I was way too used to sleeping next to her in the hospital. 

  • I beg for every single Foxg1 parent to go to our website and fill out the Patient Registry! This is so important. It can be found under parents and caregivers on foxg1research.org 

  • There is also a place under that tab inviting parents to join our Stem Cell Biobank and have their child’s blood sample turned into an IPSC line for research.

  • Please follow us on social media under FOXGResearch 

  • There is also a wonderful closed Facebook group called FOXG1 syndrome Parents Support Group.

I did an interview answering the question: “How can a parent can advocate for their child?“ No matter what the diagnosis is, even if it’s a broken arm, I offered some advice for parents to think of themselves as medical manager. Here’s that interview:

MTEAM: What are some of the key changes that would make the world a more inclusive place for children born with FOXG1?
NJ:
Top of mind, I wish Huggies or Pampers would size up! They make the best diapers, but they do not consider disabled older children. 

I’m noticing some great new clothing being made for children with disabilities. Like Billy footwear! And the Target Cat and Jack line for disabilities. 

I’d love to see more of this.

I really want to wrap my brain around an idea to help parents. Our community was rocked with devastating news that one our Foxg1 moms that we all feel so connected with through our parents group lost her battle with depression. She left this world on her own, leaving three kids and a medically fragile Foxg1 boy behind. I don’t think she wanted to. I know she loved her family so much. It is almost impossible to understand the weight that depression and mental health has on anyone, and add the stress of caring for a medically fragile, disabled, nonverbal, immobile child. It’s a perfect storm. 

I know that the work we are doing is not only for the kids, but for the parents to have life easier. I just want every parent to be able to walk down the street holding their child’s hands and talking about anything. That is why we’re here.

MTEAM: If there was one thing you’d most like the world to know or understand about Josie or about FOXG1 generally, what would it be?
NJ:
Josie smiles so much because she is a pure loving soul who only sees the good in the world. 

We are here to make a tremendous difference for so many. We need help. We need a lot of help to reach our goals. I am not good at asking for help, and now I can’t stress enough how much help we need to raise the money to fund the scientists to find a cure for Foxg1 syndrome and potentially so many other brain disorders affecting millions of people.

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10 Minutes With: Shaina Honderich

Meet Shaina, mom to Kennett. Like Meredith (whose name is the “M” in MTeam, Kennett was born with FOXG1. Below, Shaina tells us a bit about Kennett’s life, his sweet personality, and a few of the times she’s been especially proud of him. She also shares her own advice to other parents just finding out about a FOXG1 diagnosis and a few tips for those of you who may feel a bit nervous about meeting someone with special needs for the first time.

 
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MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.
SHAINA HONDERICH:
My husband (Greg), Kennett & I (Shaina) live just outside of Ann Arbor, Michigan. Kennett will be 3-years-old in May. Greg works as a routing engineer for Waste Management and I am a homemaker; I also have a side direct sales business with Maskcara Beauty. But most of my days are spent caring for Kennett and taking him to his different therapies and appointments. We love hanging out as a family. Reading. Watching movies. Going to the zoo. Kennett loves being outside, especially in warm weather; once spring comes, we’re outside a lot. 

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MTEAM: Your son Kennett was born with FOXG1. Can you explain what that means to anyone who is hearing of this for the first time? How has it manifested itself in Kennett’s case specifically?
SH:
I had a very normal, “typical” pregnancy. Kennett was born at 42 weeks, 1 day. We struggled with breastfeeding, but he was still gaining weight, so I just kept working at it. I really didn’t start noticing anything different with Kennett until his 4 month well-child check. There were some developmental questions that were asked that he wasn’t meeting. Plus, his eyes were still crossing a lot. I knew it was normal for eyes to cross in newborns, but his never went away. Around this time his weight also became a concern. His pediatrician suggested supplementing with formula. We tried so many! And nothing seemed to be working. From this point on, I felt like I was going to the pediatrician once a week because something just didn’t seem right. He still wasn’t meeting milestones and not gaining weight.

Finally when he was 7 months old, he went over a day just refusing to eat anything I tried. I took him to the ER and we ended up being admitted in hopes of figuring out what was going on with him. He had an MRI and they found that he has dysgensis of the corpus callosum (the bridge in his brain didn’t fully develop). This also lead to the beginning of genetic testing, where we finally got the diagnosis of FOXG1 Syndrome.

The FOXG1 Gene in utero is responsible for turning on many of the brain development functions. Because Kennett’s is mutated, it caused the dysgensis of the corpus callosum. Kennett has a global developmental delay, so for example, he’s almost 3, but doesn’t walk, he army crawls. He also doesn’t have any words, he babbles a lot and seems to understand A LOT, but has no current way of communicating back to us.

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MTEAM:  Tell us more about Kennett! (How old is he? What does he love most? What makes him happy? What makes him uniquely Kennett??)
SH:
Kennett will be turning 3 in May of this year. He is just the happiest little guy around! He is seriously such a joy. He loves to laugh and he loves to hear and make others laugh, too. He loves to be praised, so we really like to encourage that and praise him any chance we get. He absolutely loves dogs. He thinks they are the best thing ever (too bad mama is allergic, otherwise I know his daddy would’ve gotten him one already!). His favorite TV show is Puppy Dog Pals on Disney Junior. He has a few toys of the characters from this show, and as soon as he sees the puppies from this show... man does he light up! He also has this very specific scream(?), for lack of a better term, that he uses while playing with his puppies. It is so fun to watch.

 
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MTEAM: What’s a typical day in Kennett’s life like?
SH:
Day to day, it varies quite a bit. Our days are usually scheduled around appointments. Every week we have Speech, Occupational and Physical Therapy. Then we have Early Intervention services through our local school district twice a week. Plus any other specialty appointments (GI Doctor, Neurologist, etc.). We work really hard daily to get Kennett to eat. We’ve finally gotten to the point where he doesn’t fight much to drink a bottle anymore, so now we’re working on getting him to eat solids regularly. He also doesn’t sleep much at night; it’s very much like still getting up with a newborn to 3 month-old baby every night. He does very rarely sleep eight hours straight, and those nights are glorious!

 
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MTEAM: What sort of advice would you give to parents who are finding out about a FOXG1 diagnosis for the first time?
SH:
Take time to grieve the expected life you thought you’d have. I hope that makes sense. I know for me, when I was pregnant I planned this whole life for the little one growing inside of me. Dreamed of him walking. Talking. Playing sports. So many of the “normal” things. Having a child with FOXG1 brings a whole new normal to daily life though. Just know it’s ok, and almost necessary, to grieve those expectations.

I think it’s also important to not compare your child to any other (as hard as that is!). Even comparing to other children with FOXG1 Syndrome can be so burdensome. The variations of how the mutation effects each individual has so many differences that it can become such a huge weight to put on your shoulders. Don’t get me wrong, I still catch myself in that comparison game, but then I just remind myself that Kennett is an individual with a very unique mutation specific to him. So while he may not be able to do some things other children can with FOXG1, there may also be things he can do that others can’t.

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MTEAM: What would you say to anyone who has an opportunity to meet someone with FOXG1 (or others with different abilities) for the first time but feels a lack of confidence about how to interact with that person?
SH:
Don’t be nervous! Disability is not inability. Just because someone looks different, or cannot communicate in a typical way, doesn’t mean it isn’t possible. It may just look different than you expected. Honestly, starting out by interacting how you would to any other other person is the best way to start. Then you can go from there. 

 
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MTEAM: What have been some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced along your journey with Kennett so far and what do you love most about being his mom?
SH:
The busyness of having a child with special needs has been very hard for me. I’m a very introverted person and I thrive on having days that I can stay home and do nothing. That’s how I recharge personally. Unfortunately, we don’t get many of those days. They’re usually filled up with appointments and therapy. Which, in retrospect I know I am totally ok with. We’ve seen such huge benefits and gains from all of the appointments, so I know it’s the right choice for Kennett.

What do I love most about being Kennett’s mom? Everything! He is seriously just the sweetest little boy. He loves me fiercely and loves to cuddle; how can I not love and soak up every minute of that?! 

 
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MTEAM: What key changes do you think would make this a more inclusive world for Kennett?
SH:
Honestly, I haven’t had an experience (yet) where I’ve felt like Kennett was excluded from something because he’s different. I’m not sure if that is because he is still little or not. I’m sure at some point I will feel like he’s being excluded because of his differences. But thankfully, I haven’t experienced that yet. Our family is very supportive and help us a ton. Our church family is the same. In fact, at church, they’ve really been the ones to push me to have him be in his appropriate aged classroom (I’ll admit I kept him back in the nursery rooms with younger babies for probably too long). But this past weekend, he was in with the other 2-year-olds his age and I was told by the workers in there that he absolutely loved it. I’m also very thankful to go to a church that has an amazing Special Needs Ministry, so if we get to the point where we need it, I know that it’s available.

 
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MTEAM: Share a memory of one of the times you’ve been especially proud of Kennett.
SH:
I can think of so many times I’ve been proud of Kennett. Recently, he had to have a 48hr EEG. He was so well behaved, I couldn’t believe it. He also works so hard at therapy, he’s very compliant, like he knows that what he does with his therapists is helping him, so he just does it. Another thing that comes to mind is our recent trip to Disney World. I really wasn’t sure how things were going to go, but he absolutely loved every moment of it! He was so good, and just really went with the flow. And if you’ve ever been to Disney, you know how it’s a constant go, go, go when you’re there. He especially loved the characters; this picture with Mickey Mouse is my absolute favorite. Kennett just cracked up the whole time we were with Mickey.

 
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MTEAM: What’s one thing you’d like the world to know about Kennett or for Kennett to know about the world?
SH:
I don’t think I can say it enough. Kennett is really just the happiest, sweetest boy ever. He has his challenges developmentally, but man does he give the best smiles and cuddles, and he works so hard to overcome those challenges. I honestly believe (and see) that he can do anything he puts his mind to. And I hope the world sees him that way!

As for what I hope Kennett knows about and sees in the world... the good. There’s so much good in the world. So many caring people and people who want to make the world a better place, and I hope that someday he is one of those people that makes a huge difference in the world.

 
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10 Podcasts to Listen to While Training for the Best Buddies Challenge

Feed your mind while training your body for the Best Buddies Challenge with one of these fantastic podcasts on a range of topics like fitness, health, wellness, diversity, special needs and inclusion:

 
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1. WORK, PLAY, LOVE. Run by parents to two young children, Jesse Thomas (an Iron Man competitor and triathlete) and Lauren Fleshman (marathon runner, coach and author), “Work, Play, Love” has some clout when it comes to knowing how to balance life and a fitness routine. Episodes cover everything from running shoes to recovering from a bike crash to the exercise vs sleep debate. Tune in weekly at https://pickybars.com/blogs/the-scoop/work-play-love-podcast

2. RARE IN COMMON. A few years ago, the “Rare in Common” documentary shared the stories of several members of the rare disease community. Today, this Emmy-nominated film has stretched into the realm of the podcast to continue to tell talk to those whose lives have been touched by rare diseases - either directly or through their role as as parents, siblings, caregivers or others. Tune in at https://www.rareincommon.com

3. THE RICH ROLL PODCAST. With over 50 million downloads, this is a popular one. Rich does a weekly deep dive into a variety of wellness topics covering everything from nutrition to fitness to entertainment to spirituality. His approach is more of an intimate conversation than an interview, designed to educate, inspire, provoke and empower. Tune in at https://www.richroll.com/category/podcast/.

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4. MAMA BEAR PODCAST. There’s a powerful community of parents out there who are raising kids with special needs. Mama Bear, run by Mary Susan McConnell, focuses specifically on the mothers in this group, inviting guests on her show to share their own stories and have conversations around topics like demystifying the g-tube, balancing special needs and a career as a parent and caregiver burnout. Tune in at https://soundcloud.com/user-258150714.  

5. EMPOWERING ABILITY PODCAST. Disability inclusion is a big focus of the “Empowering Ability” podcast, hosted by Eric Goll, a coach who works with families who have a loved one with a disability. Guests are invited to share their stories, memories, advice and opinion on everything from being a caregiver to mental health of those with developmental disabilities to relationship building and understanding the sibling experience. Tune in at https://www.empoweringability.org/blog.

6. ALI ON THE RUN. Runner Ali Feller invites marathoners, everyday runners, professional athletes, entrepreneurs and other industry leaders onto her podcast to talk about their decisions, successes, failures and missteps in an effort to figure out how they can guide her own path - and in turn, ours. Past guests include Google’s Brand and Creative Lead Julie Brazitis, 17-time Paralympic medalist Tatyana McFadden and Nike Run Coach Jes Woods. Tune in at http://www.aliontherunblog.com/ali-on-the-run-show-podcast/.

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7. ASK A CYCLING COACH. Dedicated to making you a faster cyclist, this one is for the Best Buddies Challenge century riders, those of you who take the fitness side of this experience maybe slightly more seriously. Coach Chad, Coach Jonathan and Nate Pearson meet weekly to answer cycling questions on anything from intermittent fasting to mid-race mechanicals to strength training. Tune in at https://www.trainerroad.com/podcast.

8. HURDLE. Emily Abbate was looking for deeper connections in her life when she created Hurdle at the beginning of 2018 and it took off, featuring people who went through a tough time - a hurdle - by integrating wellness into their routines. She shares the stories and lessons of some of the top CEOs and other inspirational people to inspire us to use wellness techniques to get over our own obstacles to become happier, healthier and more motivated. Tune in at http://www.eabbate.com/hurdle-podcast/

9. THINK INCLUSIVE. This is a long form podcast that features interviews with thought leaders in inclusive education and community advocacy, by host Tim Villegas. His episodes cover everything from autistic self advocacy to the future of special education to a look at the way people with specific disabilities are or are not experiencing inclusion in their lives. Tune in at https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/thinkinclusive.

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10. BULLETPROOF RADIO. Dave Asprey, an author, “biohacker” and researcher covers a variety of health-related topics either by experimenting on himself or calling in the experts. Recent posts from more than 500 include how to fall in love with your work, why you desperately need carbs, reflecting on the value of community and pushing the boundaries of conventional medicine. Tune in at https://blog.bulletproof.com/category/podcasts/

If you’re not yet training for the Best Buddies Challenge with us, head over to mteamcares.org to find out what we’re all about and why you should be a part of it!

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A Best Buddies Story: Kellie Howard

Meet Kellie Howard, who has been involved with Best Buddies International for more than a decade! Below, she talks about why this organization is so important to her, the benefits it has brought to her own life, some of her favorite memories and the story of a lifelong friendship she formed through the program.

 
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MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself!
KELLIE HOWARD:
I’m 30-years-old and heavily involved in my Best Buddies USF Chapter. On my time off,  I volunteer at a nursing home in the activities department. I’ve been there just as long as I’ve been with Best Buddies - for 12 years. I’m a people person. I’m the middle child. I love caring for others and advocating. I’m from Brandon, FL (aka Tampa, FL). My favorite color is purple. I love talking; it may be my favorite hobby. I love love food and music and my family.

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MTEAM: Why it the group’s mission of inclusion close to your heart?
KH:
I’ve been a part of Best Buddies for 12 long years. I enjoy it because when I was younger, believe it or not, I was shy and couldn’t really see where I’d belong. Best Buddies is a place where you can be yourself and not worry what people think about your abilities. I was pushed down, had my hair pulled, and had water poured on me for being different while going to school. Making friends wasn’t easy.  But once I found Best Buddies, all that weight seemed to let up.

 
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MTEAM: When and how did you become an ambassador for Best Buddies?
KH:
I believe after I took all those training classes. At my first Best Buddies Leadership Conference (BBLC) back in 2014, I spoke at the closing ceremony. That was when more opportunities opened up. It was the “BEST” thing that has ever happened to my confidence level, for sure. 

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MTEAM: What are some of the coolest things you get to do as an ambassador for Best Buddies?
KH:
Travel, for sure, and meet so many wonderful and amazing people. Most importantly, making long lasting friendships and networking, sharing our mission, of course.

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MTEAM: What do you love most about the Best Buddies and why is their work important? How have they helped to support you personally?
KH:
Oh my goodness, it has helped me so much. I’ve always been a talkative person, but never had the confidence or the leadership skills or the friendships I have now. Their work is so important because, in the media and schools, there is still much to be done with the disabilities community. Best Buddies is a great stepping stone to awareness. 

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MTEAM: How do you see Best Buddies playing a role in your future? Do you have a career path you’d love to follow in mind?
KH:
Working with others with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Hopefully someday working for Best Buddies International. Growing up, since I was considered higher functioning, I was always a caregiver to my classmates; even now within my chapter, I’m a role model to a lot of my peers.  

 
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MTEAM: How would you explain Best Buddies to someone who has never heard of the organization before?
KH:
First, I would explain how long the program has been around for - 30 years! - and that we’re in 50 states and 54 countries worldwide and that I’ve been a part of the non-profit for 12 years. It’s the best thing that has ever happened to me. We are dedicated to establishing leadership skills and jobs and, most importantly, friendships. We help the disabilities community not to be isolated by our society. It’s a lot of fun and free to join and you make a difference in someone else’s life as well as your own. It’s a truly rewarding experience for all parties.

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MTEAM: Have you met anyone through Best Buddies who really inspires you? Who and how so?
KH:
I would honestly have to say my buddy Emma Donahue. We where matched in 2014. I get a new buddy every year, but she became a part of my life, much more than a buddy. She became family and a friend for life. She’s even going to be my plus one in my sister’s wedding. She has seen my highs and lows and been nothing but kind to me. She sees me for my abilities and doesn’t hold me back as a buddy. She treats me just like one of her college friends and she has even taken me to clubs and has had sleepovers with me and has come to my family functions. I think my family likes her alright too! Haha, just kidding - they love her! They even buy her Christmas gifts.

 
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MTEAM: Do you have a favorite memory from your time with Best Buddies? 
KH:
Speaking at the BBLC 2014. It was only five of us speaking. I was one of the two from Florida to be picked. I had never spoken in front of so many people in my life before and the crazy thing is, I wasn’t even nervous. Another time, I was on the Young Leaders Council and even became a committed chairwomen on the International Board of Directors with Anthony K Shriver. Now, I sit on the Tampa board and Friendship Walk board. 

Being able to travel is another favorite thing, since my mom doesn’t like to get out much. When Best Buddies invites me to speak somewhere, I get so excited. I tend to pack my bag early and I get to do my favorite things: talking and networking and speaking about our mission and making memories. 

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MTEAM: What would you say to someone who was considering about supporting Best Buddies or joining a Best Buddies Challenge community like the MTeam, but not sure whether to go ahead?
KH:
I would say it’s truly a rewarding experience and it’s a really great opportunity to build friendships and confidence. It’s a lot of fun!


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You're Invited - "Fedoras & Sequins: A Night at the Casino"

MTeamers & Friends:

Have plans on Saturday, March 2?

You do now!

Whether you’re part of the team or just follow us on social media, you’re all invited to come along for one of our favorite nights of the year - our annual Spring fundraising gala in Boston, MA.

TICKETS AVAILABLE HERE: http://bit.ly/MTeamGala

We dress to the nines for a "Fedoras & Sequins: A Night at the Casino" themed party and, for the $100 donation entry, you'll receive two drink tokens, some delicious hors d'oeuvres and $500 worth of casino chips to try your luck at the tables.

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We also hold an auction and we’re looking for additional donations (have an empty holiday home, for example, that you’re willing to give up for an amazing cause for a week?). There's already some fantastic auction items on our list that will go for bidding, including a week-long trip to Sydney or Hong Kong!

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All money goes into our campaign to raise $250,000 for Best Buddies International and their work toward inclusion for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities, leading up to our participation in the Best Buddies Challenge on 1 June 2019.

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Meredith, our Chief Motivating Officer, and her family always attend so if you haven’t met the “M” in the MTeam yet, this is a wonderful opportunity to introduce yourself and see one of those famous Mer Bear smiles in person.

“The gala has been an MTeam hallmark ever since 2016,” said Greg Lewis, Mer’s dad. “It is the highlight of my year. A spectacular evening filled with laughs, inspiration and delicious food! It also serves as the official launch of our spring fundraising season. Most importantly, it is an opportunity for our community to gather and continue our work to ensure all individuals, regardless of ability, have every opportunity to reach their full potential.”

Invite your friends and sign up as quickly as possible because spaces are limited and trust us, you don’t want to miss this one!

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Special Needs Siblings: Emily Spears

Meet Emily, middle sibling to Amy and Ben who were both born with FoxG1 - the same rare genetic condition as Meredith from the MTeam. We shared their mother Ann’s perspective recently, and she told us a lot about Amy and Ben and life as a family with special needs. Now, we hear from Emily, to find out what it’s like to grow up with two siblings on the severe end of the FoxG1 spectrum.

 
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MTEAM: Beyond what you've written in the essay, what are some of the other ways that being the middle sister to Amy and Ben impacted the way you grew up as compared to others your age?
EMILY SPEARS:
The one thing I remember thinking about over and over again about being Amy and Ben's middle sister was, "Why me?" It was very difficult growing up and watching my friends relationships with their siblings, and even though this is not a flattering word for me to use about myself, I was jealous. At the time, I felt like I was meant to have an older sister and everything that came with that; I wanted to steal her clothes, ask her about school, have her drive me to my friends’ houses, watch her go on her first date. In my mind, my parents wanted me to have an older sister and younger brother, and "it wasn't fair" that I didn't get to have those "normal" relationships. And while today, as a 29-year-old, I understand that this is not how life works, and I love and appreciate the relationships I do have with Amy and Ben, it is still difficult not having those "normal" relationships.

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What wasn't difficult was living my day-to-day life. While I can look back and think of certain days that were challenging, my overall memory of my childhood was easy, which my parents deserve full credit for. Even with two siblings who required full time care, I don't ever remember my parents letting that stop me from doing something I wanted to do. I played sports and they were at every game. I had friends who lived 45 minutes from me and they drove me there and picked me up. I needed help with my math homework and my Dad painstakingly worked through every problem with me. My parents also shielded me from being my siblings caregiver; to them, that was their job and not mine. Yes, I was their sibling, and I was expected to help, but I probably still don't know how to do half the things my parents do on a day-to-day basis to care for Amy.

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Over everything else though, my parents always made me feel special. Every Thursday night from the time I can remember until probably sometime in middle school, when life gets a little more hectic with homework, sports, etc, my parents and I would go on date night - just the three of us. I think it was good for me to have a couple hours a week when I had both of them on my own and I got both of their undivided attention, without being distracted or pulled away by Amy and Ben. Honestly, this is probably good for every child whether or not their siblings have disabilities, but especially so if they do.

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MTEAM: What are some of the ways in which you've bonded with your siblings over the years?
EMILY SPEARS:
Music and swimming. Unquestionably, those are the two things that Amy, Ben, and I got to bond over and enjoy the most, and luckily for us they were both abundant in our house. If you drop by our house, it doesn't matter what time of day it is, there will be music playing, and we don't discriminate on genre. From Jay-Z, to Dixie Chicks, to Shakira, to Nat King Cole, we’ve heard it all and loved it all. Music has always made Amy and Ben come alive, and if you've ever seen their joy and laughter, you know it is contagious. 

Swimming is our second great love. My parents put a pool in our backyard, I think when I was about 18-months-old, so we grew up swimming all summer long. I can't say that Amy and Ben love the "cold pool" as we affectionately call it, but they love the hot tub. For them, it is a release from their wheelchairs, and something that we got to enjoy together as a family.

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MTEAM: What would you say to other people who are currently struggling like you did in the beginning with what it means to be a sibling to someone with special needs?
EMILY SPEARS:
I know that it's hard, and confusing, and frustrating. Even though sometimes it may feel like you are alone in your struggle, you are not! There are other kids just like you whose siblings are not "normal" - find them, it helps! 

Above all else, look at how your sibling looks at you - he or she adores you! You are their world, their everything! Nobody looks at me or loves me in the way that Amy and Ben do. Their love for me is truly unconditional. They are never mad at me. They are never disappointed in me. They are never annoyed by me. They love me through and through, no matter what, always! They think I am perfect. And having someone look at you like that is a rare and wonderful gift. 

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Below, Emily shared an essay that she wrote in her senior year of high school in response to a prompt on Vanderbilt’s college application about diversity with her story of being Amy and Ben’s sister:

“I am the middle child with two severely mentally and physically handicapped siblings. From the moment I was born, I had to deal with diversity head on. I have endured the stares that came from strangers as I pushed either my brother or sister’s wheelchair through the mall. I have experienced a school where every child attending has some sort of disability. But most importantly, I have seen what happens when people stop staring and accept those like my brother and sister.

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As a young child, when my mom and I would take my siblings to the mall, I would more often than not leave the mall wishing that my brother and sister were “normal”. I always found it unfair that God chose me to deal with the difficulties that my brother and sister created. Every time my family would pass the wishing fountain in the mall, I would ask my mom if I could throw a penny in and make a wish. Of course, my mom would always let me, assuming that a child of six or seven would be wishing for a pony or a new Barbie, and after all, it was only a penny. But, without fail, every time I threw a penny in the fountain, I would wish for the same thing - that a miracle would transform my brother and sister into the siblings that I always wished I could have. Of course that never happened. As I grew older, I stopped throwing pennies into the wishing fountain - not because I realized that my wish could never and would never come true, but because that was no longer my dream.

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I believe that there is something in everyone’s lives that defines who they are as a person, whether it be a defining moment, accomplishment, or personal circumstance. In my case, my brother and sister are the people who have made me who I am. I realize now, after all those wasted pennies, that without them I would be a totally different person. Even though my siblings have provided endless hardships for my family, what is more important are the endless smiles and laughs we have gained in return. There is something about the way my brother’s smiling gaze follows my every move and the fit of giggles that some days my sister can’t seem to suppress that makes all the tears they have caused me seem unimportant. It has never been easy being their sister, but in the end it has always been worth it.

 
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I often find myself wondering what exactly it means to be “normal”. Is it that you are about average at everything you do? Or are you simply “normal” because you fit into the standard equation of what a human being is supposed to be? If either of those two cases describes what it means to be normal, I have no idea why I would have wished my siblings to be “normal”. Having handicapped siblings is what taught me respect and appreciation for all facets of my life. They are what taught me to be open to the world around me. Accepting the fact that my siblings are who they are for a reason is what made me who I am today. Because of them, I am more accepting of diversity. I have learned that diversity is not something to be scorned or shied away from; it is something that should be embraced because you never know what kind of affect those people could have on you - in fact, they may just shape who you are.”

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10 Minutes With: Ann Zgorski

Meet Ann Zgorski, a mother of three children: Amy, Emily and Ben. Amy and Ben were both born with FoxG1, (the same rare genetic condition as Meredith the MTeam’s Chief Motivating Officer), though it took many years to find a diagnosis. Below, Ann tells us how her own life changed in many ways after her children were born, where her family found support and stories of the lives of each of her children.

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MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself. 
ANN ZGORSKI:
My name is Ann Zgorski and I live in the Baltimore Washington metropolitan area. I realized in answering this question that I’m not really the feature of my life; my children are. Ever since my first child Amy was born, it has been family first. My career with IBM came to a stop, my ability to be the social being I was became more difficult, and I needed to learn to reinvent who I was. Spending most of my time home certainly made me look around and say, ok, if I’m here, let’s make the most of it. So, to the delight of my family, I became a pretty accomplished cook! Lesson one, find the positives in the negatives. 

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MTEAM: What role has FoxG1 played in your life over the years?
AZ:
FoxG1 was not introduced into our world until Amy was 26, and Ben 22. For 26 years, we mottled through the world of seizures, gtubes, wheelchairs, IEPs, scoliosis surgeries, pulmonologists, gastroenterologists, etc.  Not having a diagnosis for all those years proved to be very difficult. We had NO BUBBLE TO FILL IN on the hundreds of forms we filled out. We couldn’t say “other”, because then they’d want a “write in”! Many services were restricted due to this...they didn’t know where to put us. So we kept on keeping on until May of 2013 when we got the call that there was a match (finally!)...FoxG1. We now could check “other”.  Lesson 2, don’t give up.

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MTEAM: Most of the FOXG1 families we speak with have younger children. At the age of 31, Amy is believed to be the oldest Fox in the US and Benjamin lived to be 25. That’s incredible. What sort of support and resources have you been able to lean on or access through the decades that may have assisted in their longevity?
AZ:
Yes, Amy is 31 and Ben was 25 when he passed away in 2016. Living in Maryland we had a very good school system that the kids attended until age 21. It was through this school that we found a support group, not only for me, but for my daughter Emily as well. The school psychologist would hold support groups monthly for the parents, but also in the evenings, once a month, she would hold support groups for the siblings of kids who attended this school. I wish that all schools could do this for not only the parents but for the siblings. It is very important to not feel alone as a parent or sibling of a disabled individual. 

It was also through this school that we found an individual willing to help us with respite for Amy and Ben so that my husband and I could have an occasional date, and go out with our daughter Emily. This too was very important to the upbringing of Emily, and of keeping our relationship as a couple, together. Support from family, friends and anyone in the community willing to help is certainly key to keeping normalcy in your life and the life of the others in the family.

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MTEAM: What have been some of your personal challenges and rewards along your journey as a mother so far?
AZ:
Obviously my biggest challenge as a mother was balancing two disabled children with all of their needs, along with the needs of my daughter Emily. I couldn’t have done it without the support of a very good husband and father to my children! On a personal level, another challenge would be also keeping up relationships with friends who don’t quite understand the demands that your family has on you.

My reward has been seeing Amy grow into a healthy and happy little girl. Even though she is 31, she still my little girl who we put to bed every night! My daughter Emily has been my pride and joy! To see her accomplish so much, and grow into a beautiful human being both inside and out, and to choose a profession that helps others....I’m so, so proud!

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MTEAM: Tell us a bit more about Amy! What does she love most? What makes her happy? What makes her uniquely Amy?
AZ:
As I said earlier, Amy is 31-years-old and lives home with her mom and dad. She has the ability of a 3 to 6-month-old and requires total care in every aspect of life. She is Gtube fed,  but also takes puréed food orally. We personally bathe and dress her and take care of all her personal hygiene needs. 

What makes Amy unique is her love for life!  She is the happiest little girl in the world! All Amy wants in life is to be loved, and to be involved in the activities of your life. She loves music, and I have to admit,  she loves the men in her life!

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MTEAM: What’s a typical day in Amy’s life like these days?
AZ:
A typical day in Amy‘s life is her attending an adult day care program where she swims and is involved in arts and crafts with one-on-one help. She plays games and enjoys the activities around her. She has friends at her program and is happy to attend her program daily. She comes home to us at night and has dinner, gets bathed, and hangs out with her family until it’s time for bed.

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MTEAM: Your middle daughter Emily is a sibling of two Foxes! Tell us a bit about her. What were some of the challenges for her as she was growing up? What have been the most positive aspects of her experience? How has it impacted her life generally?
AZ:
Our middle daughter Emily is now 29, married, and is a pediatric nurse practitioner. As parents, we always tried to make Emily feel special, in a home where her other two siblings took up the majority of our time and energy. Weekly, as much as possible, we took Emily on a “date” ....dinner out with mom and dad, that gave us all the opportunity to listen and stay connected to her world. We always emphasized to her that her siblings were not her responsibility, and that her responsibility was to do well in school and to have fun along the way! Emily did do well in school, and attended undergrad and graduate school at Vanderbilt university, earning her masters as a nurse practitioner. We could not be more proud that she chose to become a pediatric nurse practitioner! Her siblings taught her compassion, empathy, selflessness, awareness, and so many other great qualities. But above all, they taught her to Love!

Ben’s passing two years ago was one of the hardest moments as a family. We knew his respiratory issues had become his downfall, but his passing, none the less, caught us off guard! Emily insisted on delivering the eulogy for her brother’s funeral. There wasn’t a dry eye in the church and I couldn’t have been any prouder as her mom. I hope you get to know her perspective in the future.

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MTEAM: Tell us about Ben, what he was like growing up, what made him happy throughout his life and what qualities made him uniquely Ben.
AZ:
Handsome Benjamin was 25 when he passed away, on Amy‘s 29th birthday. He struggled for many years with seizures, respiratory issues and the obvious pain that was always difficult to diagnose. We tried to make him comfortable, but he rarely slept and was home sick a lot. A simple cold could keep him home for 10 days. He had an infectious laugh when he felt well. And you knew, he really just wanted to be happy. It broke my heart not to be able to make him comfortable in life.

So with his death, I could find comfort in knowing he was no longer in pain, and that it was finally at peace and with our God. I find myself more comfortable with my own mortality knowing that I will be with Ben again someday!

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MTEAM: If there was one thing you’d most like the world to know or understand about Amy, Ben or about FoxG1 generally, what would it be?
AZ:
FoxG1 is a rare genetic disorder,  and yet in its rarity, there is a huge spectrum of ability amongst the community of children within this syndrome. I believe Amy and Ben are on the severe end of the spectrum. There are FoxG1 children who can walk and communicate, which is an amazing thing for me to imagine.

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MTEAM: What key changes would make this a more inclusive world for people with FOXG1?
AZ:
Inclusiveness should be the goal of every person regardless of the bubble that they can, or cannot, fill in.

Candyce Carragher
Happy New Year & 2019 Goals

To all MTeamers and friends of the MTeam: We wish you a very happy 2019 and hope you all have a wonderful year ahead. We also want to take a moment to thank all of you so much for your support. We’ve made a real impact this year that you should all be proud of and, with your continued help, we will do that this year too.

January is always a time for reflection and for setting intentions for the coming year. Like many of you, we’ve been taking some time out to do just that.

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Here are three of our biggest goals for 2019 and some of our favorite memories from the past year:

GOAL 1: Awareness & Inclusion for People with Intellectual & Developmental Disabilities

Awareness is the first step toward a more inclusive world. When we’re able to meet and interact with other people who might be a bit different from us, fear of difference begins to fade. We see the abilities and strengths in people who are differently-abled and those qualities shine.

We share lots of love on our social media with the wonderful, huge community of people who were born with intellectual and developmental disabilities and their families. We also post stories and interviews on the MTeam blog to give readers a greater insight into the lives of the families who participate.

“M” is for Meredith and advocating for her is hugely important to us; we have a special place in our hearts for the FOXG1 community. One of the best moments in the history of the MTeam happened in November 2018. We are thrilled to have been able to donate a piece of innovative assistive technology called the Tobii Dynavox PCEye Plus to Meredith’s school that allows her and her other nonverbal classmates the ability to communicate, paint and do other activities through a system that tracks their eye movements. It was truly an incredible moment to launch this gift and we are enjoying following their progress.

How you can get involved: Send us a message on social media to volunteer to share your story in one of our interviews or be featured on one of our Tuesday Instagram posts under our hashtag #ThisWorldIsForEveryone. Share our content and help us spread awareness and kindness.

Some of our favorite blog posts and memories:

GOAL 2: Raise Money for Best Buddies International & Participate in the Best Buddies Challenge

We’re a Best Buddies Challenge civilian team, so we work year round to meet our fundraising goals for Best Buddies International before participating in the big event in Hyannis Port, Massachusetts the beginning of June: a 5k walk/run or a 20, 50 or 100 mile cycle.

Best Buddies is an amazing organization that works toward inclusion for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities at all stages of life, from facilitating friendships to providing leadership development opportunities to helping participants secure jobs in an integrated employment environment.

We’ve made a bigger impact each year and challenge ourselves to think even bigger as time goes on. The first year we were involved, in 2016, we raised about $12,000. In 2017, we raised $100,000. In 2018, we raised $150,000. This year, we’ve set the stakes even higher at a goal of $250,000. Each Friday, we check in with our progress on Facebook and Instagram, so everyone can follow along.

How you can get involved: Donate and/or encourage others to do the same. Even a small amount helps us as we inch toward our goal and we are grateful for any kind donation, big or small. We also welcome corporate sponsors. Please donate here, and feel free to message us with any questions! We are continually grateful for your support.

Some of our favorite blog posts and memories:

GOAL 3: Welcome More Members to the MTeam and Grow Our Community

We’d really love to see the MTeam continue to grow. We started with 6 members in 2016, grew to 30 in 2017, and 50 in 2018. Our goals is to have 100 members in our community for 2019.

We’re a fun bunch and family-friendly and, while our hub is Boston, we have members around the world. We welcome anyone who has an interest in supporting people with intellectual and developmental disabilities to join us. Come and walk or run or cycle in the Best Buddies Challenge and make a real impact with us in 2019.

How you can get involved: Join us and encourage your friends to do the same. If you’re an MTeamer, refer a friend and we’ll donate the first $100 to the fundraising campaigns for each of you. We’re also offering a donation of $100 for the next 20 people who sign up, so you’ll have a head start.

Meet a few of the MTeamers:

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10 Minutes With: Melissa Jones
 
10 Minutes with Melissa Jones - Lani's Mom (Pfeiffer Syndrome)
 

Meet Melissa Jones, a hardworking mother and grandmother who advocates passionately for her youngest daughter Lani who was born with a genetic condition called Pfeiffer Syndrome. Below, Melissa took some time to share a bit about the ins and outs of daily life for her family, tell us about Lani’s fiery personality and wild spirit and share a few ways that others could help make this world a more inclusive place for medically complex and fragile children.

 
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MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.
MELISSA JONES:
My name is Melissa. I have four children and four plus one grandchildren, (one is a bonus grandchild). I don't get to see them much because life is soooooo busy with Lani and my husband. We do this journey together but my daughter and her husband totally "get it" and understand how busy our new life with Lani is. My girls are 26 and 22, my boy just turned 13, and Lani is 2. My husband and I have been a thing for 17+ years, lol. We waited 15 years for Lani. We never did anything to prevent pregnancy and my husband, although he was pivotal in raising my older girls, always wanted his "set." Though we were told we'd "never get pregnant or carry to term," we had Kamden four years later and Lani 15 years later. Lani was born at 26.6 weeks, with fire in her soul and determination in her heart!!

 
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MTEAM: Your daughter Lani was born with Pfeiffer Syndrome. Can you explain a bit about what it is exactly for those who are unfamiliar and how it has manifested itself in Lani’s life in particular?
MJ:
Lani's Pfeiffer Syndrome hasn't been staged, but we are sure she has Type 1. Lani has craniosynostosis and craniofacial abnormalities that are directly related to her syndrome. Lani's knees and elbows are fused, along with her hips, making her gait a little different from "normal." Lani can't extend her elbows or knees fully, but she has adapted so well. Lani has multiple other comorbidities that make her super fragile and complex, medically. Lani is severely speech delayed and slow at meeting milestones, BUT she has always done things her way and her favorite phrase is: "I do'd it" meaning "I'll do it myself!"

 
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MTEAM: Tell us a bit more about Lani! How old is she? What does she love most? What makes her happy? What makes her uniquely Lani?
MJ:
Ha. Lani is 30-months-old. Lani is a fashionista!! She loves to pick out her accessories and hair bows at night, ready for the next morning. Lani LOVES her brother the most and coming in at a very close second is the show “Word Party”. Although Lani loves watching LuLu the panda dance in Word Party, she is not a fan of any animal. Lani LOVES her uni. 

 
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MTEAM: What’s a typical day in Lani’s life like?
MJ:
Typical day? Ha. Well, she goes to daycare 3-4 times a week which started out to be for occupational therapy, but the people in the center she goes to are her peeps!! She loves her Ms. Ariana, Ms. Randi and Ms. April and they love Lani!! We go to many speciality appointments, nearly two hours one way, but CHOA has Lani and her syndrome covered; they also specialize in craniofacial disorders which helps this mamma with her anxiety!! Lani has four different therapies twice a week and we both work full time, lol...

 
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MTEAM: What have been some of your biggest challenges and the best rewards along your journey with Lani so far?
MJ:
Our biggest challenge has been qualifying for any resources. Co-pays with our insurance are ridiculous, especially the first 3-4 months of the new plan period. I work in the healthcare industry and my husband works in shipping at a local factory; we both work very hard and do well for our little family!! Even though we both work hard, we can't qualify for anything because of our income. But, if you factor in Lani's special formula, her therapy co-pays, her speciality appointment co-pays, co-pays for surgery and routine radiology appointments to monitor her hydrocephalus and ICP, we are wayyyyyy below poverty level.

The biggest reward is being Lani's momma. Lani keeps me young and she gives me something internally, I've never had; so hard to describe. Her smile, her bravery and carefree, WILD spirit is so motivational and she really lights up ANY room she trots into!!

 
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MTEAM: What advice would you offer to other parents who are just finding out about a Pfeiffer syndrome diagnosis?
MJ:
While Lani's Pfeffier syndrome isn't as profound as others, it still takes us on a journey we never thought we'd be on. My best advice is to follow your instinct and ask the PROFESSIONALS questions; stay away from Google. It's not your friend, in any of this!! The special needs community is phenomenal. I'd suggest finding yourself a few good INSPIRATIONAL Mamma's and Papas space on blogs, on social media, and follow them. I've found so much reassurance in reading about others parents’/families’ stories and successes. It's really, really, really easy to get caught up in the negativity of any syndrome or complexity, so if you find yourself falling into the "hole" reach out!!

 
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MTEAM: How would you like to hear other parents respond if their own children notice and ask questions about Lani’s physical differences?
MJ:
My son plays football and we love being football parents. However, exposing Lani to the crowd can be challenging. We get the stares, whispers and snide comments and we know it's because people aren't "aware and informed." Yes, it hurts my heart when the 5-year-old walks up to my 2-year-old and laughs, pointing and saying: “Your eyes are so big; bug eyes”. Moreover, knowing that 5-year-old learned to do that from their environment hurts even more. Lani truly has no idea what they are laughing about and it doesn't register obviously, but it doesn't take the sting out of the encounter for me. So, I would hope parents would educate their children. Teach your children to be kind and say "hi," rather than stare and pick the other child apart.

 
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MTEAM: What key changes would make this a more inclusive world for children with Pfeiffer Syndrome?
MJ:
Having the ability to have access to the same resources as others, regardless of income or insurability, would help our kiddos tremendously!!

 
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MTEAM: One of your goals is to raise awareness for Lani and other medically complex or fragile children. What are some of the ways you’ve done this in the past or you hope to do so in the future?
MJ:
I have a Facebook page set up for Lani. People are curious by nature, so I make it a point to invite people to her page and I join groups on social media platforms and disseminate information about Lani and her syndrome to help raise awareness.

 
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MTEAM: What’s one thing you’d like the world to know about Lani or Pfeiffer Syndrome or medically complex or fragile children generally?
MJ:
Lani is amazing. She is gorgeous, fiesty and very smart!! She loves and hurts, just like any other 2-year-old. If you happen upon a complex, fragile child, smile and just say “hi”; teach your children to do the same... Don't stare: speak.

 
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Meet the MTeam: Candyce Carragher

Candyce Carragher has been an integral part of the MTeam since the community came into being in 2016. She has dedicated many hours and days to keeping the team organized and making our events a success. Below, she takes a step back to share the reasons why the MTeam is important to her, how it has inspired her to take small actions in her own life that help to make the world a more inclusive place, and some of the ways that you can support the work of the MTeam beyond financial donations.

 
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MTEAM: Why is the MTeam and the Best Buddies mission important to you?
CANDYCE CARRAGHER:
The reason I became so heavily involved with the MTeam and Best Buddies was because of the Lewis Family. I worked with Greg at CAPA The Global Education Network and then met his wife Laura and their daughter, Meredith. It was my first time being around a person that has severe disabilities. Meredith was born with FOXG1 and is non-verbal and non-ambulatory with involuntary body movement.

As I got to know the family a bit and had various conversations, I realized that we typically focus on the physical/biological impact of FOXG1, but most people don’t think about the impact it has on a family. I have twins that are a few years older than Meredith and I put myself and their shoes and thought how lonely and isolated it must be to not have the same interactions every parent has with their child.

The MTeam and Best Buddies are all about spreading the word that people with disabilities are the same as everyone else; they just have different abilities. I’ve made it a personal mission of mine to interact in small ways with people who are different than me. It doesn’t take much and it’s free if you don’t have money to donate to the cause, although I’d like that too. Just smile. Meredith has a killer smile.

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MTEAM: What’s one thing you’ve learned from being part of the MTeam community?
CC:
It reminds me how good people are in this world that can be scary and negative. The people on the MTeam come from all over the place and some never knew one another. They join for various reasons but at the base of it, everyone joins to do good.

Meet the MTeam: Candyce Carragher

MTEAM: What makes the MTeam special? What would inspire people to join you?
CC:
Oh my goodness, is this a fun group. I love the people of the MTeam and what it stands for – inclusion. If you don’t join for any other reason, the fun and inclusion would be enough. Lots of events and gatherings gives me the chance to be with like-minded people. And race day is amazing. It’s inspiring.

Meet the MTeam: Candyce Carragher

MTEAM: Tell us more about race day; what’s the atmosphere like at a Best Buddies Challenge event?
CC:
Extremely well organized, transportation to start lines and back to Boston from the Cape, showers and massage at the finish line, tons of food and drink. Great to get to meet Best Buddies participants and their families, the reason we are doing what we do. And the after party is through the roof! I had the chance to see Joan Jett and the Blackhearts two years ago and Rick Springfield last year. The entire team wears the same t-shirts (provided by the team) so you can see us everywhere. When we are together, all 50 or more of us, we are a sea of red. It’s cool when we are all on the dance floor. It’s a blast.

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MTEAM: Do you have to be an avid runner or cyclist to join the MTeam?
CC:
You definitely do not need to be an avid anything! Much of the team is made up of walkers; some people run and walk a bit over the course of the 5k. There are young kids who ride, walk and run. Of course there are serious athletes involved, but it’s an open, friendly family event. The best part is meeting the people that are part of the Best Buddies programs along with their families. Meredith and her mom and dad run it each year. It’s what makes it all worthwhile. Personally, I used it as a training challenge for myself. It got me back to the gym and I’ve been going faithfully for almost two years now. I’m still not a runner or rider, but I feel so much better for it.

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MTEAM: What’s your top one piece of advice for any MTeam newbies?
CC:
Become involved. Send John and the rest of the team an email. One of the goals of the MTeam is to get everyone involved all year long, not only on race day or at a few events. Plan a meet up. Find out which team members live in your area and plan a workout, a run or a ride. Other teammates already do this and would love another person to join them. Have your very own fundraising party at your home. Keep it simple and provide some food and drink and charge a small entry fee that will go towards your personal fundraising goal. So many fun ideas.

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MTEAM: What’s your best piece of advice this year for MTeamers who are returning for another round?
CC:
Share your knowledge with new members. Reach out and ask them to go for a run or ride. Keep inspiring people. I try to spread the word that people who do not have the same abilities than me are just different; they are still people who want friendship, love and community, just like me.

Meet the MTeam: Candyce Carragher

MTEAM: Share an MTeam memory that has been the most powerful and inspiring for you so far.
CC:
I learned from Laura, Greg and Meredith that people avoid them when they are out. They understand why, and so do I. People feel awkward and uncomfortable, they don’t know what to say, so they avoid them.

I acknowledged and accepted that I am guilty of this too. So now I make an effort say hi or smile at someone rather than avoiding. One day, I was in line at Walmart with my daughter. There was a mom behind me with her grown son in a stroller type wheelchair. I was nervous, but I turned around and said hello. He was trying to move his arms and his mom said, as only a mom would know, that he was saying hi to me. So I bent down and chatted with him for a second. I said hi. I asked him how he was. I touched his hand. I introduced my daughter. That mom cried because I acknowledge her child. I will never forget that moment for as long as I live.

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MTEAM: How can you support the MTeam if you don't have the means to donate and aren't ready to actually join the team?
CC:
There are tons of ways to support the team if you don’t have the means to do it financially! I’ve gotten creative over the past couple of years. The easiest way is to like and follow MTeam pages on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and then share our posts. The MTeam has a fantastic social media presence with really great blog posts and articles on lots of topics ranging from raising children to running to riding and health tips in between. Next, ask your own social media network to like and follow us. This might seem small and insignificant, but the more people who share this information, the more people we reach. Social media is a powerful tool and if nothing else, it normalizes people who have different abilities than me.

A second way is to get creative with fundraising. The holidays are here! Ask folks to donate to the cause. Create an email or share the donation link on your own social media. If you are having a holiday party, ask for $5.00 donations (or more!), leave a big jar out with a sign/flyer, pass the hat. Kids love to help. Have them create a poster encouraging donations. Use pictures of Meredith so people can see who they are helping. Share your own story about why this has impacted you and created a desire to help. There are so many ways to get involved!

Meet the MTeam: Candyce Carragher

MTEAM: Have you seen the MTeam make a direct impact on Meredith's life specifically?
CC:
Oh my goodness, YES! In general, it’s brought awareness to so many people and through that, more acceptance of people that are different and therefore less loneliness for Meredith and her parents, Greg and Laura.

Specifically, there was an amazing donation the MTeam just made to Meredith’s school at the end of November. This piece of technology that translates eye movements into speech will allow her and the other kids who are non-verbal to communicate their wants and needs for the very first time. I mean seriously, can you imagine having to guess each day what your child wants? Now for the first time, they can actually express it themselves. That boggles my mind. It’s just an amazing gift.

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10 Minutes With: Natalie Weaver

Meet Natalie Weaver, a mom of three who advocates incessantly at a national level for her daughter Sophia and other kids who have disabilities or chronic illnesses. One of the areas where she puts much of her focus is facial deformities. She fights hard for change that will not only show through in the country’s laws but that will also bring about much needed acceptance, inclusion and normalization for these children. Below, Natalie tells us Sophia’s story, from her medically-complex history to her sweet and sassy personality, talks about her advocacy and the two organizations she has formed for this purpose, and shares her advice for parents who are newly receiving a special needs diagnosis.

 
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MTEAM: Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.
NATALIE WEAVER:
My name is Natalie Weaver. I am married to my wonderful and supportive husband Mark Weaver and we have three beautiful children: Sophia (10), Alex (8) and Lyla (5). I’ve wanted to be a mom since I was a little girl. I’m an artist and before kids, I used to show my art in a gallery for several years. I am a healthcare and patient/parent advocate. I fight to protect healthcare for kids with disabilities and chronic illness and I also fight for acceptance, inclusion and normalizing disabilities and facial deformities.

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MTEAM: We love following your adventures with your sweet daughter Sophia on social media. For those who are reading your story for the first time, can you help us understand a bit about Sophia’s complex medical history?
NW:
I had a typical and healthy pregnancy. Since Sophia was my first, I was extra cautious and even cut sugar and caffeine out of my diet!

I didn’t find out that something could be wrong until an ultrasound at 34 weeks pregnant. I was rushed to a specialist where Sophia was examined through an ultrasound for two hours. I found out that day that she’d be born with deformities to her face, hands and feet and that she might not survive birth. I had four weeks to carry that heavy weight. It was a very difficult time.

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Sophia was able to breathe on her own and stayed in the NICU for a month where she received her first surgery at nine days old. For a while, we thought the only challenges would be her deformities but with each year came a new diagnosis. There is no one else in the world like Sophia so we learn as we go. She began to talk, play and do all the things we had hoped but then slowly began losing those skills. We found out she has Rett syndrome, though her mutation on the MECP2 gene is one never documented, again a unique case. This neurological condition comes with seizures, tremors, loss of walking, talking, use of hands, and the ability to do anything on her own. While it took a lot from her, it did not take her happiness, her love, her positivity or her sweet spirit. Sophia was also diagnosed with a rare immune deficiency and type 1 diabetes. She has undergone 28 surgeries to improve her quality of life and to decrease pain. She requires full time care.

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MTEAM: Tell us a bit more about Sophia and her personality! What does she love most? What makes her happy? What makes her uniquely Sophia??
NW:
Despite what she goes through, she is the sweetest little human ever. She is the center of our family. She has an attitude and rolls her eyes at me quite often. She can’t talk but has many ways to communicate with us. She loves to cuddle and spend time with family. Her favorite color is green and she has a laugh that will melt all your problems away. Sophia goes through a lot, but as soon as the pain or challenges subside, she is happy, positive and laughing again. She is the strongest person I know and has a high tolerance for pain. 

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MTEAM: What’s a typical day in Sophia’s life like?
NW:
Sophia requires care from others for all of her needs. We have nurse aides who help with a lot of the day to day things like getting dressed, bathed, fed through a feeding tube, etc. We help her have a fun day filled with music, adapted dancing, arts and crafts and enjoying the outdoors. She has a busy day. She has occupational, physical and speech therapy twice a week and a teacher that comes to the house. She works hard throughout the week. She sleeps in on the weekends and gets to chill with her family for movie night and other fun family time. 

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MTEAM: What have been some of your biggest challenges and the best rewards along your journey with Sophia so far?
NW:
The biggest challenge for me has been not knowing how long I’ll have with my sweet girl. I know I’ll lose her one day and it’s something I’ve had to learn to peacefully live with. It also used to be hard for me to face the cruelty we’ve received because Sophia looks different. I kept private for the first 8 years of Sophia’s life because the pain of the reactions and cruelty were too much for me to handle. I’d try to build up my courage to go out to do simple things like run errands, only to be knocked down again by the cruelty of others. I’m proud that I finally stood up against the hate and I live life out in the open with my beautiful girl that I’m so proud of.

The biggest rewards are being in the presence of Sophia, and learning so much about life, living in the moment and unconditional love. She has helped me find my voice and my true self. 

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MTEAM: What advice would you offer to other parents who are just finding out about a similar diagnosis? What about some advice to the parents of other children who take notice of Sophia’s physical differences?
NW:
Advice to parents with a newly diagnosed child: It is very difficult in the beginning, but you will get through this; you will find strength you never knew you had and you will know a love deeper than any love you’ve ever experienced before. Times will be hard but there will be amazing and happy moments. The happiness will feel so much sweeter. 

Advice to other parents: Teach your children about disabilities and facial deformities as early as possible. Teach acceptance and inclusion. You can find stories of disabled people and people with facial deformities on the internet and share it with them and let them ask questions. Do not shush them away from disabled people or people with facial deformities. Teach them to smile and say hello. 

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MTEAM: You have embarked on an incredible journey advocating for Sophia and other medically-fragile children. What key changes are you currently fighting for that would make this a more inclusive, safer or generally better world for them?
NW:
I’m always fighting to protect healthcare and more specifically Medicaid and Preexisting condition protections. I’ve also fought against Twitter to protect disabled children on their platform. I fought for months to get them to include ‘hate towards disability’ on their reporting tool so people can properly report hate and discrimination. I hope this has made a difference, but I’m not sure how good they are at enforcing it. I share our lives on social media to give people a glimpse into the life of a profoundly disabled child. Families like mine aren’t heard from very often and it’s important we have a voice. It’s important that we are seen so that change and acceptance can occur. 

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MTEAM: You’ve also set up Sophia’s Voice and are the co-founder of Fragile Kids NC. Can you tell us a bit about both of these organizations and what you hope to accomplish through each of them? 
NW:
The first organization I am the Co-Founder of is Advocates for Medically Fragile Kids NC. This organization began when our state was trying to reduce services for thousands of medically complex kids in NC. I along with two other moms, and co-founders, Jenny and Elaine stopped this from happening. Jenny and Elaine have done an amazing job of being a part of meetings with decision makers in NC to ensure the safety of NC’s medically complex kids. They are amazing and keep it running while I’m advocating nationally. They call me in when needed to spotlight things in the media.

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Sophia’s Voice is my new organization. As I built a large community around me of people who care, people began to reach out to me for help and I realized I could raise money quickly and help them get the medical equipment they need or to connect them with resources. Sophia’s Voice also tries to bring joy and respite to caregivers and disability activists who are working tirelessly. We also support individual activists who fight for healthcare and disability rights in various ways. 

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MTEAM: Sophia has a very active and supportive following on social media now. How has this been important throughout your journey with her so far?
NW:
The large and supportive following that I have on social media has been key in being able to get stuff done! Social media pressure works! It’s also been the most amazing thing to once have been so isolated and to now have a tremendous amount of support throughout the entire world. It has connected me with other families who understand and it has helped me open up. Now I have I wonderful supportive group of friends and a loyal and loving support system. 

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MTEAM: If there was one thing you’d most like the world to know about Sophia, what would it be?
NW:
I would most like the world to know that Sophia is an incredibly strong and amazing human being who is loved fiercely and unconditionally. Sophia is the true definition of beauty, strength and love. Those who take the time to really know and see her are changed for the better. 

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Candyce Carragher
The MTeam's Donation of Innovative Tech Gives Nonverbal Students a Voice

It was an emotional morning. The classroom at Meredith’s school in Norfolk, MA, was full of happiness, love, joy and wonder as we gathered there with a small group of friends, family and the wonderful team who facilitate the learning experience for Mer and her classmates.

Wrapped up in a big red bow at the center was a gift from the MTeam: a piece of innovative assistive technology called Tobii Dynavox PCEye Plus.

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We gathered round and Mer cut the ribbon with her special adaptive scissors. This marked the beginning of a big day, a day that 10-year-old Mer, along with her classmates Kaitlyn and Aiden - all three of whom are nonverbal - would be given an opportunity to communicate for the first time.

And it will be a gift that keeps on giving, extending beyond them to their other classmates and on to the students who pass through the Bi-County Collaborative (BICO) program classroom at King Phillip Middle School in the future.

For those of you who have stumbled upon us for the first time, Mer is the MTeam’s Chief Motivating Officer. Our motto as a Best Buddies Challenge team is “Miles for Smiles” because her smiles light up our hearts and what we do is because of, for her, her. Our “M” is for Meredith.

Mer was born with FOXG1, a rare genetic condition (only about 350 people worldwide have been diagnosed) that means, among many other things, that she is both nonverbal and unable to control her body movements. Besides the messages she is able to convey through her beautiful smiles, Mer has never been able to communicate even her most basic needs to her parents.

And so we are incredibly privileged to have been able to do something that will change her world as she knows it.

 
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The Tobii PCEye Plus system has been embraced by the school and the students and was officially launched on the morning of November 27, 2018 for them to use. Among other things, it will be used to enhance their learning activities. It’s the world’s first device that combines advanced eye tracking, switch and infrared control with speech recognition. The way it works is fascinating: students can move a mouse on a screen and select items using just their eyes. The system then translates those eye movements into a voice or a sound, like you’ll see in the video above as Kaitlyn plays the xylophone.

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Mer and her friends are in the process of learning how to use the new technology now, but once they have mastered the basics, there’s much to explore. It’s capable of everything from web browsing to practical tasks like making spreadsheets to many means of creative expression.

“This was possibly one of the most incredible and beautiful days of my life. I witnessed a miracle,” said MTeam captain John Christian. “Everybody deserves access to community, to love, to engagement. When we were able to actually present this gift to BICO and to the school, it’s just one small piece of what we’re trying to do with the community that we serve. Right now, Mer’s playing games, but the future is to tell people, ‘I’m hungry’, ‘I’m in pain’, ‘I’m tired’, ‘I love you’, all the things that we take for granted every day. This has been the most profound MTeam moment. If you ever needed something to motivate you for our 2019 campaign, it’s what happened here today. From the heart, this is what the MTeam is all about.”

 
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Thanks to all who have made this possible. We are listening and can’t wait to hear what Mer has to say as she begins to tell her story!

Watch our video embedded above, and this footage aired on NBC News for more.

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